As salam wa la kum Imam Senad,
I once again need you help but before I begin I make dua that Allah shower blessings on the Rasul, all awliaallah and my Hazrat and his family and his mureeds. May Allah give our Hazrat the strenght to carry us all. Ameen.
I last asked you about my step father being my mahram. I am now in another situation…
My mother was married to my late father who died before I was born. She then got married to another man who has children from another woman. We all stay together. I am now 3X something years old and not married due to Allah’s will.
My step father wants to get married to me now as he feels that to protect me there is no man that will be able to carry the problems that lay with me. To be honest my whole heart and soul does not agree with it and would like my sheik to give me advice as well. He says he will still be married to my mother and me at the same time. One question I also have did any of this situation happen in the prophet Muhammed (saw) time. Please let me get advice as now I’m in a situation where I would not like to be forced into this situation. I belief that whom so ever Allah wants me to marry is already written and I have faith that it will happen.
I don’t know whether to tell that person of what my step dads intention is as he may be able to help me. Now I don’t know whether to belief my inner as I told my step dad about the feelings I had but he says it’s shaitan that’s playing with me. If it is shaitan can my sheikh give me advice on the matter as right now with all these things I feel I’m getting weak and don’t have the inner strength anymore. I used to look up to my step dad as my father since I did not have one and now I do not believe all the things he says as I feel that I do not know what his motive is.
The last time I asked you if he is considered my mahram and you said yes but he is telling me in the times of the prophets they use to have Bedoins that they had children with and therefore the rulings apply to their situation and not mine.
As per Shariah what are the rulings? Please ask my sheikh as he has the wisdom and knows a lot of the finer things that I may have wanted to ask him but I cannot remember. Please remember us all in your duas.
Your reply the last time was to my step dad being my mahram…Please answer all these questions.
Your step-father is your mahram. Here is the proof from the Noble Qur’an:
4:23 “Prohibited to you (For marriage) are:- Your mothers, daughters, sisters; father’s sisters, Mother’s sisters; brother’s daughters, sister’s daughters; foster-mothers (Who gave you suck), foster-sisters; your wives’ mothers; your step-daughters under your guardianship, born of your wives to whom ye have gone in,- no prohibition if ye have not gone in;- (Those who have been) wives of your sons proceeding from your loins; and two sisters in wedlock at one and the same time, except for what is past; for Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful”.
May Allah give us the strength to walk the right path.
Answer:
wa `alaykum salam,
Your step-father is your mahram and therefore he can not marry you under any circumstances. Here is the proof from the Noble Qur’an:
4:23 Prohibited to your step father (For marriage) are: …your step-daughters under your guardianship, born of your wives to whom ye have gone in,- no prohibition if ye have not gone in;- (Those who have been) wives of your sons proceeding from your loins; and two sisters in wedlock at one and the same time, except for what is past; for Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful.
May Allah give us the strength to walk the right path all the time.
Imam Senad Agic
American Islamic Center – Chicago
Majlis #1 Head Imam (IABNA)
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Second Answer:
Your stepfather is your mahram and it is impermissible, haram for him to marry you, if he has had sexual intercourse with your mother. Beware his intentions as he probably already knows this, based on the verse cited in the previous answer you received here, (also see Reliance of the Traveller, m6.1) and he maybe trying to fool you.
Taher Siddiqui
