Question:
Astagfirullah
I am asking this with feeling of guilt.
I am 21 year old boy. I am in love with my neighbor girl 18 she is my best friend’s sister. He know about our relation. We start our relation with his permission. He told me that find a good job and marry with permission of parents and he support our relation. Her father and my father are also best friends. Her mother catch our secret relation she also like me but she is not support because i don’t have a good job. Her marriage will be within 3-4 years. Before that I have to achieve a good job. We cannot stop our relation because unfortunately we fall in sexual intercourse I promised that I’ll never cheat her. Please give me dua to forgive our sins and to get married her with permission of parents. I need a dua for achieving good job.
Answer:
“In love” is not a reality but rather it is a manifestation of sexual desire that is the reality. Islam prescribed marriage for that. Your best friend is no friend at all, because he supports you doing haram. More important than a job is to avoid haram. You can be married and poor: she live at home and you live at home. But commiting zina (fornication) will harm you both immensely in this life and in the Hereafter and you will never be able to marry her if you continue. So you need to be straightforward and propose to her father, knowing that you are not in a position to support her yet, and then move forward from there.
Taher Siddiqui
