Question:

Assalamu alaikum,

I was loving with a boy. We loved very much. He told his parents. They and his relatives, brother and sister, didn’t agree for our marriage because of my bad family background… After it, he promised to his mother with Qu’ran that he would never contact to me. We had bad relations (sexual) at the time of love (we ask thouba every time). So I couldn’t marry another man. I don’t want to cheat any one. Please suggest me duas to get him back as my husband and to melt his parents, relatives mind and to agree them for our marriage soon. Please. My parents are searching for marriage. I am dying here. As you can please reply to me fast. I did a ishthikara and first day and had a dream that our marriage functioned. After it, did many times but nothing had. Please help me and pray for me to get him back as my husband.

Answer:

Wa’alaikumussalam,

Make dua and lots of Salawat (1000 times after each of the five prayers). It is important to marry a man that loves you and one of the happiest marriages comes from the blessing of the parents. There are so many difficulties here that the best marriage might be to someone else. Open your heart to whatever Allah will send. Allah knows best.

Hajah Faridah

Question:

I got married {nikah} in Jeddah court. The qazi read nikah the same way it is done in mosques and my parents were present. After that I came back to India with my parents to study and my parents have not told anyone about it. They are planning for a ruksati next year. This year we are going to Saudi again so can I meet my husband alone and spend time with him before the ruksati. As the nikah is finished, is this not allowed in Islam?

Answer:

Islamically it is fine to consummate the marriage after the nikah. There is no need to wait for the rukhsati. One of the conditions of a valid marriage is to be announced publicly. Why don’t you have a simple waleemah so no one can point a finger at you.

It has been reported from the Messenger of Allah sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam: “Waleema on the first day is confirmed (haq), and on the second day, it is good (ma’ruf), and on the third day, it is showing off.” (Sunan Abu Dawud, no. 3738) .

Imam Senad Agic
American Islamic Center – Chicago
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Question:

Assalamu’alaikum,

Syaikh, I’m a single woman age 4_years old, never have a marriage before. Every time I meet someone who wants me to be his wife, I feel that he is not good for me. Now, I met my old friend (my school friend), a widower. He lets me to have a date, make a close relationship, etc. But, once more, I feel he is not a good man. I feel he use magic to attract me. I’m worried about that, because when I was young, sometimes jinn & something like that disturbing at me…

Is he good for me? Is he use magic to attract me?

Answer:

Wa alaikumussalam,

Make dua and pray Salatul Istikharah, ask for Allah’s guidance. Recite Salawat 100-1000 times after each of the five prayers to erase jinn and magic from you. Life is short, time goes so fast and age is getting on. There is no Mr. Perfect. Accept whoever Allah sends for you, complete half of your religion and make the best of it.

Hajah Faridah