assalamualaikum to all
Recently I have asked a friend to help our family business out whilst we are away but he says he cannot do it and his reasons aren’t valid. Also I am currently liking a girl but it hurts and I want to forget about her as she is giving me a cold shoulder. I have done lots for her, as a friend. Others have let me down a lot and I’m always in a state of sadness from this. Can you please pray for them and I and give me a solution? I still want them in my life. Thank you and may Allah bless everyone on this site, and peace be upon our Beloved master Muhammad (S.A.W)
audhu billah mina ‘sh-shaytani ‘r-rajeem,
Bismillahi ‘r-Rahmani ‘r-Raheem,
wa `alaykum salam,
You seem to be a very giving and caring person, but you must understand that every human being is unique and may not reciprocate your kindness in the way you would like or expect. The friend has no obligation to your family business, so his acceptance would be optional and also his refusal is legitimate whether or not you find his excuses “valid.” With your parents, try to find a suitable girl for marriage- not “friends.” If this girl does not seem interested or suitable then forget about her, as you have no relationship to her Islamically.
Recite everyday “hasbunallah wa ni`ama ‘l-wakeel” 100 times to make your problems easier. You may also read Qul Ya Azeem as recently recommended by Mawlana Shaykh Nazim al-Haqqani. http://www.sufilive.com/print.cfm?id=3376&lc=EN Wa’Allahu a`lam.
Dr. Karim Tourk