Request:
Salam Shaykh,
I’m married for [private] years and MSH did the nikah. I have a 2-year old daughter. I am doing all household chores and looking after my daughter, so I get tired easily. My husband is alhamdulillah but he can be demanding at times. He treats me like rubbish sometimes by talking to me rudely and calling me names when he doesn’t get certain things or when he is upset or tired. He doesn’t care if anyone is around. I lose my face every time. When his family comes I do my best to serve them. When they are not around, he will be nice but when they are around, he becomes egoistic towards me. I am beginning to feel unhappy deep down. I’m just swallowing my feelings so I don’t be called names again when I bring the matter up as it hurts me. What should I do?
Response:
`Alaykum Salam,
Tell him Mawlana Shaykh Hisham says not to be rude and not to call you names. Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) said the best among you men are those who treat their wives best. Tariqa does not accept tyrannical husbands, and Mawlana Shaykh Nazim (Allah bless his secret) sees what goes on. As for yourself be also patient as that situation is one of the pathways to sainthood. Your face is safe with Allah, and may Allah Most High grant you support and wisdom.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
