Question:
Hello. I’d rather write a long email I guess that would explain better. But I’ll try to be precise as there isn’t much space. My question is concerning my relationship I had some problems some ups and downs. Then I met a sufi dervesh at first we were friends. Then we both developed deeper feelings he even wanted to marry me but it was hard to be with him and my relationship situation got better and I went back as I couldn’t hurt someone I knew for 7 yrs. But I can’t get over him we also don’t talk anymore. It’s very confusing. He stays in head and I don’t feel the same way as I once did. I feel changed on crossroads
Answer:
Assalamu Alaikum Sister
Your situation is a little unclear but it seems you are married but you refer to it as ‘in a relationship’ with someone for seven years. Please note that in Islam there is no acceptable ‘relationship’ between a man and a woman except marriage. If you are not married then we urge you to do so quickly.
You can do the Istikharah prayer.
Hajj Khalid Aboulela
