Confused, stressed, chaos


Hello. I’d rather write a long email I guess that would explain better. But I’ll try to be precise as there isn’t much space. My question is concerning my relationship I had some problems some ups and downs. Then I met a sufi dervesh at first we were friends. Then we both developed deeper feelings he even wanted to marry me but it was hard to be with him and my relationship situation got better and I went back as I couldn’t hurt someone I knew for 7 yrs. But I can’t get over him we also don’t talk anymore. It’s very confusing. He stays in head and I don’t feel the same way as I once did. I feel changed on crossroads


Assalamu Alaikum Sister

Your situation is a little unclear but it seems you are married but you refer to it as ‘in a relationship’ with someone for seven years. Please note that in Islam there is no acceptable ‘relationship’ between a man and a woman except marriage. If you are not married then we urge you to do so quickly.

You can do the Istikharah prayer.

Hajj Khalid Aboulela

About Khalid Aboulela

A Sudanese Egyptian living in the Niagara Region of Ontario, Hajj Khalid graduated from the American University in Cairo majoring in Chemistry and Imperial College, London with an MBA. He has studied under Mawlana Shaykh Nazim al-Haqqani and Shaykh Hisham Kabbani for almost 30 years. He is fluent in classical Arabic prose and poetry and has ijaza from Shaykh Nazim to lead dhikr, answer questions to students of Islamic sciences, and to interpret dreams.
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