I have been in tariqah for a while. The message I get from every sohba is to submit, be patient, and to give fragrance to the hand that crushes me. I have tried to do this in every aspect of my life. People at my work behave unjustly, a certain family member may take advantage of my kindness, my husband takes me for granted, etc. I feel I am getting crushed by those closest to me; being soft only makes it happen more. People think they can walk all over me when i am patient. Is it really possible to follow tariqah advice and not get smashed by dunya? How can I continue to follow this advice? I feel like it is bringing despair. Am I following the advice incorrectly? How does one balance tariqah teachings with dunya challenges?
Put your foot down but without anger in your heart. Do not take on more than you can bear with. Allah loves those with patient endurance so we can be sure that the price is heavy!
Hajj Gibril Haddad