Question:
Salam,
I am asking for guidance, I am not a very religious person and I want to start praying and strengthening my iman as well. My problem is that I really love this person and he is all I think about. My intentions were marriage and there were misunderstandings and I am no longer with him and its been a year or. I have his mothers name as well. I really want to go through with the dua’a.
Thank you!
Answer:
Wa `alaykum salam,
Insha-Allah Mawlana Shaykh Hisham Kabbani is praying for you.
You have permission from Allah Almighty to make du`a for any of your needs whatsoever where Allah swt said in Holy Qur’an:
وَقَالَ رَبُّكُمُ ادْعُونِي أَسْتَجِبْ لَكُمْ إِنَّ الَّذِينَ يَسْتَكْبِرُونَ عَنْ عِبَادَتِي سَيَدْخُلُونَ جَهَنَّمَ دَاخِرِينَ
{And your Lord says: “Call on Me; I will answer your (Prayer): Verily, they who are too proud to worship Me will enter hell, abased!} (Ghafir, 40:60)
So make du`a and follow these principles: as Allah (swt) as outlined in the following suhbat, on December 22, 2012 by Mawlana Shaykh Hisham Kabbani:
“Whatever you ask I will accept, but ask (Me)!” And when you ask and didn’t get, don’t say, “I didn’t get,” because you have to keep asking; Allah is testing you. Prophet (s) said, “For every sickness there is a cure except one, which is death.”
What is the enemy of du`a? Why do you make du`a? Because you want to take away the affliction. So affliction is the enemy of the du`a, it is trying to stop the du`a. So that is why the Prophet (s) said from Sayyidina `Ali (r) as mentioned by al-Hakim in his Sahih:
الدعا سلاح المومن
Ad-du`a silaah al-mu’min.
Du`a is the sword/weapon of the believer.
There are three different levels of du`a that are facing three different levels of affliction. Du`a is the weapon of the believer, the way you kill the enemy:
1) ad-du`a silaah al-mu’min, the du`a is the weapon of the believer.
2) ad-du`a`imad ad-deen, like salaat, du`a is the pillar of religion.
3) ad-du`a nooru ’s-samawaati wa ‘l-ard, and it is the Light of Heavens and Earth as mentioned by Prophet (s).
So du`a can take away everything and it can give you Noor of Heavens and Earth! It can be used as a weapon against Shaytan for what he does against your soul, and it will remove the bad desires and be a weapon against your sickness and a pillar for your religion!
Al-balaa’u thalaatha maqaamaat, he mentioned three levels of du`a that are facing three different levels of affliction:
1) One is the du`a that is stronger than the affliction and it will remove the affliction. That is why you need a guide, a shaykh that gives you strong du`a that will throw the affliction away.
2) The du`a that you didn’t seek advice of a shaykh or wali to tell you which du`a you have to use against the balaa doesn’t have power to take away the affliction, and therefore, the affliction will get stronger and take over.
3) The du`a and the affliction are equal in power and there will be a struggle. As long as you continue with your du`a, the affliction will be struggling and not cause you to fall down and as you increase in du`a that affliction will begin to decrease and disappear.
`Abdullah ibn `Sayyidina `Umar (r) narrated that the Prophet (s) said:
عن ابن عمر رضي الله عنهما قال : قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم : ” الدعاء ينفع مما نزل ، ومما لم ينزل ، فعليكم عباد الله بالدعاء “
al-du`a yanfa` limaa nazal wa mimmaa nazal, fa `alaykum bi ’d-du`a.
The du`a will prevent the affliction from wherever already came down and also the affliction that might come later. Al-Mustadrak `alaa as-Sahihayn
We will continue this inshaa-Allah and mention the best du`as and the time for these invocations. And Allah (swt) mentioned in Holy Qur’an:
يَمْحُو اللّهُ مَا يَشَاء وَيُثْبِتُ وَعِندَهُ أُمُّ الْكِتَابِ
Yamhullaahu ma yashaa’u wa yuthbit wa `indahu umm al-kitaab.
Allah will erase or confirm whatever He likes and with Him is the Mother of Books. (Surat ar-Ra`d, 13:39)
Allah erases and confirms whatever He wants and the only thing that can erase what is written for you is the du`a. If, for example, it is written that you will go out of this door and fall and break your leg, that du`a will prevent it. So if you are aware of this and you begin everything you do with du`a–when you stand for prayer, upon entering a mosque, upon leaving your house, or when you wake up or sleep, or begin to speak with someone, etc.–and you begin by reciting “Bismillahi ‘r-Rahmani ‘r-Raheem” or al-Fatihah or du`a, then with the barakah of the du`a, Allah will erase the balaa, difficulty, that was written for you that you are not seeing. May Allah open our eyes and our minds so we will always be on the right way!
And it is mentioned in a hadith from Abu Hurayrah (r) that the Prophet (s) said:
قَالَ أَبُو هُرَيْرَةَ : قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : ” مَنْ لَا يَسْأَلِ اللَّهَ يَغْضَبْ عَلَيْهِ
Man laa yas’alillaha yaghdab `alayh.
Who does not ask Allah, Allah will be angry with. (Bukhari’s Adab al-Mufrad, Musnad Ahmad and Ibn Majah)
Sometimes something happens to you and you begin to curse; no one thinks to make du`a instead of cursing. What is the benefit of cursing? I hear this from people or on TV, when people get something they don’t like what do they say? They say something that begins with ‘s’. What is the benefit? That is on the tongue of everyone. I am sorry to say that this is someone who doesn’t have adab in front of Allah or when he faces a problem he says “shit” instead of saying, yaa Rabbee `afwak wa ridaak, “O Allah, forgive me!” What is the benefit of bad words? It’s not going to benefit them, but Shaytan puts them on the tongues of people and the first complaint they use against Allah is coming as the word “shit”! So we have to be very careful.
In that hadith, Allah said, “Whoever doesn’t ask from Him, Allah will get angry (ghadab Allah) with him.” And you know “ghadab Allah” is very strong and the Prophet (s) said, “Be careful from your father’s anger, as it will immediately affect your life.” If your father says, “May Allah be angry with you!” that is a very heavy warning from the Prophet (s) to the children, so make sure you don’t get that word out from your father’s mouth! The mother is still softer (she will never be that angry), but the anger of the father is not accepted.
If that is for the anger of the father, so then what about the anger of the father’s Creator? That is why whoever does not ask Allah, Allah will be angry with him. So when you face difficulty why don’t you say, “alhamdulillah” and “shukran lillah” as that will immediately open forgiveness, and be thankful it was not worse instead of saying the ‘s’ word! When someone hit your car, what do you say? The same or worse, and what do you need to say?
الخير فيما وقع
Al-khayru feemaa waqa`a,
The best is in what happened.
Because it might have been a big accident in which you died, but instead Allah made it a smaller accident that involved paying some money to fix your car and saved you from injury or death! That is why we should always be asking Allah through du`a and that is the importance of du`a: it brings healing and takes affliction from you!
Sayyida `Ayesha (r) related that the Prophet (s) said:
إن الله يحب الملحين فى الدعاء
Inna ’Llaha yuhibbu ’l-muliheen fi ‘d-du`a.
Truly Allah likes the one who keeps insisting (pestering) with the du`a.
Allah (swt) will like that so keep asking, “Yaa Rabb, yaa Rabb (help me)!” Allah likes that and keep bugging (pestering)! “Insisting” is not the right word; Prophet (s) said “al-muliheen” is the one who overdoes it, so bug Paradise, bug the angels! “Allah, yaa Allah, yaa Allah, yaa Allah!” then Allah will say, “Yaa `Abdee, O My servant!” So Sayyida `Ayesha (r) said the Prophet (s) said that Allah likes the one who is always bugging, insisting, overdoing in asking Him. Therefore, O Muslims, O believers, O mu’min! Keep bugging, keep asking and keep praying and making du`as and you will be cured from many physical and spiritual sicknesses that you know or don’t even perceive.
Taher Siddiqui
