Question:
Salaam alaykum, i have been housewife for 15-years, i do all the homework and cooking and i serve my husband. He does not do anything at home. He owns a restaurant, has lot of bills to pay and is very stressed. I don’t mean to gossip but to get help i say that he doesn’t pray and he is not so religious, but he does not drink alcohol or anything like that either. Problem is that he is always in angry mood, he always finds things to complain, he is rarely happy and he is always telling me and kids how much better he is than us. He is not happy with us. I have been very tired and depressed for a long time now. I don’t get any joy in serving him anymore as he is not showing that he is happy with me, he is not treating me well and i feel i’m worth nothing to him, me and our 3 children are only a burden to him. I’m trying to think that Allaah is happy with me, but daily angryness, stressing and unhappyness is makeing me so weak and sad. I cannot even rest when i’m ill, i still have to serve him and he is angry because i’m sick like the sickness is my own fault. What to do to help him feel better? I’m so tired and depressed that i feel i have no energy to try anymore, 15-years, some times its 2 weeks happy and nice, then again many months going like this. I have been telling him to pray, to relax littlebit, to enjoy from family, but when he comes home he is only watching series from TV, morning he wakes he straight goes to computer. What to do to help this situation coming better?
Answer:
Pray Two Raka`ats for Allah : in each raka`at : Fatiha +7 Ayat al-Kursi, after the prayer do 100 times Husbuna Allah wa Ni`am Al-Wakil. Recite 7 times Surat al-Fatiha on drinking water for all of you, with the intention that Allah takes this stress from the house, and make all of you happy.
Hajjah Naziha Adil
