Somebody proposed marriage to me however he was of a different caste. I informed my parents and expressed my wish to marry him as well. I prayed istikhara – in the first dream I saw him sitting in a room with some children and he was playing with them. I have known the man for many years and from what I know he is of good character. However when I spoke to my father the next day he rejected because the man was from a different caste.
I feel very sad as he was strong in terms of religious character and I think we were a good match. Please can you make dua for me as my parents reject every proposal. Also, is there a dua that I can recite to help my parents see that caste should not be a barrier to our marriage.
You are right that the Sunna is for parents to accept the one with good religion as in this case; but Allah Most High also gave `urf (custom) a role and a place, of course within reasonable limits. Recite daily x100 ya Fattah ya Jabbar and in each du`a recite Salat munajiyyah (also known as Du`a Tunjina or Tunjeena) to your intention. May Allah grant you reward on your patience and increase your wisdom.
Hajj Gibril Haddad