Sir, I am a guy. I liked a girl in my workplace because she was pious and religious. Both families met. Her family agreed, my parents agreed partly, but had their doubts. The final decision was to be decided on istikhara. My mom asked her shaykh to do the istikhara. He initially said that if you ate satisfied then there’s no need of isitikhara from me, but my mom insisted. She did not tell the complete name of the girl to her shaykh..just the middle name..later the shaykh told that the istikhara is not good..he wouldn’t recommend her.
Later I discovered that the girl has depression and has suicidal tendencies. I still like her but am confused! My mom is not willing to reconsider her..nor she wishes to do the istikhara again!
PLEASE,can u tell me,can the istikhara be “redone” again? What if it is positive? Will the marriage be succesful?
Bismillahi ‘r-Rahmani ‘r-Rahim
Allahumma Salli `ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa Ahili wa Sahbihi Ajma’in
I hope this letter reaches you in a good state. Marriage is but one of the references ( like livelihood and travel) that should be consulted by the Shaykh. Because the Shaykh is able to see what is in your heart, he is best to guide his murid in this situation. This is the safest and easiest way to get a clear answer.
And Allah knows best.