Question:
Assalamu Alaykum,
I’ve been having a sexual relationship with a Muslim for some while (may Allah forgive us) and he is a good man. I am in love with him, I feel very connected to him and I thought we would end up getting married some day. But he says we will not get married, he doesn’t feel that way about me. But still keeps dating me. And now I seem to be pregnant, which he does not know yet and I’m little afraid to tell. I want to marry him, I just wish he would want it from his heart too.
Please ask beloved Shaykh Nazim to pray for us. And if there is a du’a I could recite in this situation. I’m quite upset and worried, but my Love and Faith for Allah is strong.
Bismillah ar-Rahman r-Raheem
Answer:
Alaykum Salam,
Your being quite upset and worried is your soul telling you that you need to wake up. As your father or more merciful yet, Mawlana Shaykh Nazim (Allah bless his secret) is telling you that what you are doing is leading you very far from love and faith and it does not have a good ending.
A good man never leads one down the path of delusion. First step to healing is to break off this relationship right away. After that if that man has any honor left in him let him propose and marry; otherwise run for dear life.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
