Due to surgery my wife private part has become very short. It is very painful for her to be intimate. She is very old fashion would not masturbate me. Is ok if I masturbate myself. If I don’t relieve myself I become very irritated and frustrated. Commit sin.
You can educate your wife as this is also part of intimacy between spouses even if it may take time. When she gets better you can resume normally. Meantime you are responsible to control your anger.
Hajj Gibril Haddad