Question:

Salaam,
I’m frustrated, my heart is going to burst if don’t do anything about it. I’m always being falsely accused by my own brothers and sisters, which I personally never felt like they were my brother or sister. This is going since my childhood 20 years. One of them keeps stealing my stuff, clothes and money. We aren’t poor nor rich. But he still keeps stealing my money and leaving me to have nothing and suffer. You can’t imagine what he stole from me. He stole even my underwears and swearing every time, “Wallah I didn’t steal anything”…?
Please tell me, should I ask Allah To punish him or should I personally punish him. Wallah Shaykh today, I almost collapsed from the anger that I’m suppressing. I keep suppressing my anger since I was a kid. My heart, my brain, my soul is suffering deeply.

Answer:

wa `alaykum salam,

We must take example from the master of creation Sayyidina Muhammad (s). What did he do when his own family and tribe abused him and shunned him? Instead of punishing those who deserved punishment, he forgave them. Instead of taking back from the people of Mecca what they stole from him, he gave those who became Muslims more wealth. We can never achieve the perfection of Sayyidina Muhammad (s), but we can try to follow his way as much as we can. Try to forgive your brother for his shortcomings. soon you will part ways, and no longer will you live together. Insha-Allah, you will look back one day and laugh at all this.

Success is from Allah.

Ali Elsayed