Question:

After seeing an unknown member of the complimentary gender and feeling a sense of familiarity and attraction. I told a friend about it, who said that this happens when you’re in the Tariqa and it can be hard to not act upon, and duas is the only thing he’s found to  help.  He said I can expect it to happen again, and it has for the 3rd time now. This time I felt it from them to me, rather than from me to them (it felt like their heart was jumping out at mine) and now I keep thinking about how nice it would be to have another wife (her).

My friend who gave the advice unfortunately doesn’t have children but I’ve got no excuse. Is this a manifestation of greed in me? What is the stance in our Tariqa and of Maulana?

Answer:

The right understanding of Tariqa is to be simple and practical and work hard for Allah and His Prophet, not lay supine and claim to make only dua when it comes to helping others achieve marriage which is half of the religion. Fifty years of teaching have passed but there are still people who claim affiliation to Mawlana and yet they do not see that the first thing he asks of newcomers is: Are you married? If not, get married at once. Therefore he is saying stop creating obstacles for yourselves and others, it is un-Islamic, anti-Sunna and anti-Sufi. Get married, help others do so, and give them blessings and support when they do, without inventing objections in the name of Tariqa or what not.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

Question:

Mawlana Shaykh Hisham & TEAM
As-sallamu Alaykum,

I am responsible for a circle of Naqshbandi ladies dhikr/Cairo Egypt. Sometimes I get new ladies who say: “We are Sufis without a Shaykh”. They don’t want to commit to a Shaykh. I accept them and tell them to read Fatihah for Prophet (s)/ make salawat so they can be able to identify their Shaykh. It usually works this way. Eventually they take online bay`ah with Mawlana Shaykh Nazim. However sometimes they tend to be more stubborn/aggressive, to the point that they ask me personally to read dhikr with them without reading Fatihah to Naqshbandi Golden Chain. I told them simply, my Shaykhs taught me this dhikr and the least I can do is read Fatihah for them. Kindly advise/pray for us.

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

Give them time to shed the false notions layered over their perception of religion. Tell them about the circle of Hajja Anna in Damascus in which was raised Hajja Naziha. Just read  Fatiha to “Ustazina wa Ustazi Ustazina” without naming so as not to raise objections. Until they accept a living shaykh their shaykh is shaytan but at least they are on the right way and learning little by little, as all of us are in sha Allah.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

Question:

Assalamu’alaykum,

There is a man whom I do not know personally but one day, I had a vision of this man in complete ihram although I have never seen him in any attire other than his work attire. This left me with a feeling that I need to tell him, but what does it mean?

Jazakallahu khayran.

Answer:

Audhu billahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajim
Bismi-llāhi r-raḥmāni r-raḥīm:

Wa alaikum As Salaam,

It is not necessary to approach this man and tell him anything.If he is Muslim, perhaps he will make hajj or is already Hajji.If he is not Muslim perhaps he will become Muslim.

wallahu ‘Alam,

Kamau Ayubbi