Marriage problems since two weeks

Posted on February 15, 2013 by Hajjah Faridah

Question:

Salam w alaykum shaykh,

First I want to apologize for asking this question and my complains. I have some problems lately. My mother is getting a divorce with my stepdad and also my father is getting a divorce to. I find it really hard to deal with this. I’m not the same person as I used to be. I feel depressed and sad. When I wanna talk to my husband about how I feel, he gets irritated or mad at me and says that I nag and complain all the time. Most of the time we are in a discussion and he always says it’s my faulth and that he needs a new relationship. I know I complain allot and I’m not making my husband happy all the time, what can I do to make my marriage back about love and support?

JazakAllah.

Answer:

Wa’alaikumussalam,

Keep your parents’ problems to yourself and no need to discuss them with your husband since he gets irritated with it. Show no sadness or depression to him ever if your heart is broken. Don’t let the same situation happen to you. Reducing complaints increases intimacy with your husband. It will bring more blessing, love and support to your  marriage. As for your parents, make dua and pray for the best for them. Recite lots of Salawat every day 100-1000x after each prayer to remove all the problems.

Hajjah Faridah

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Picture of prophet Muhammad (pbuh)

Posted on February 15, 2013 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

As salamu aleykum,

I apologize in advance to burden you with this question. In Naqshbandi circles and some parts of Morocco a photo of Prophet (s) is circulated which is supposed to be a picture sketch by Bahira the monk, when Prophet (s) was a boy.

Is this picture authentic?

If we are to obtain such a picture are we allowed to display it in our homes along with the pictures of Shaykh or should we refrain?

Are we allowed to keep it out of personal love for the Habib just for our own selves?
Again, I am sorry for this question but the community here is conservative Muslim and very sensitive to such displays of affection to the Prophet pbuh and some of the mureeds are displaying this picture in their homes, which is drawing criticism and interrogation.

Thank your response.

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

As stated in the Forty Hadiths collected by Imam al-Nawawi: “Leave what causes you doubt and stick to what does not cause you any doubt.”
(Tirmidhi, Nasa’i)

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Dream: Bee type of bug

Posted on February 15, 2013 by Imam Yassir Chadly

Dream:

Asalamu Aleikum,

In my dream there were a lot of bee type of orange bugs that were stinging me all over my body. I’ve seen this dream few times in 5/7 years. In some dreams I don’t feel any pain and in some I do feel some pain from their sting (even though in reality their sting hurts a lot).

JazakAllahu Khairan.

Interpretation:

Audhu billahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajim
Bismi-llāhi r-raḥmāni r-raḥīm

Wa alaykumus salaam.

This dream can mean that you may be involved with argumentative kinds of people who backbite and debate politics and don’t do remembrance of their maker (dikr). Seek the people who reminds you of Allah and you will InshaAllah be happy.

And Allah (swt) knows best.

Yassir Chadly

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Prayer Request: Past harassment

Posted on February 15, 2013 by Imam Kamau Ayyubi

Question:

Assalamu Alaikum,

Seven years ago while attending college in India, I was harassed by a non-Muslim boy very badly. It took a lot of effort to get out of that situation. Since the past year I keep having dreams at the least 3-4 times a month and they all show the same thing with him obsessed about me, will not leave my side as if he can’t do anything without me and will not leave me. These dreams come about when I haven’t even thought about him and I am not living in India. I am afraid maybe in the future if I by chance end up being harassed by him. Is there any prayer or wazifa you can advise me to prevent any trouble ever from him. I appreciate your kindness and may Allah swt reward all of your efforts in helping others.

Answer:

Audhu billahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajim
Bismi-llāhi r-raḥmāni r-raḥīm:

Wa ‘alaikum Salaam,

Make sure you are sleeping with wudu, shahadah and 3x Quls and blow on yourself before sleep each night.  It sounds like the harassment was serious and traumatic. It could be Shaytan trying to disturb you in which case disregard the bad dreams and focus on Allah’s mercy and healing in your day to day life. You may recite Ya Shafi 100x or more and work on healing from these negative experiences, looking for openings to overcome the negative memories.

Wallahu Alam,

Kamau Ayubbi

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Salat Questions

Posted on February 15, 2013 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

AA WR WB: I hope you are in good health & high Imaan Sidi.

1: As a Shafi I would like to confirm, Is it true that tahajud prayer can be performed at ANY time after Isha as long as one has slept then awoke to perform the prayer (even if before midnight)?

2: Some call it Fajr, some call it subh. What is the meaning & difference between the two?

3: I/we are still trying to get our heads around & understand the timing for isha prayer & the degrees & 40 minute ruling etc. For me is easiest to pray isha as early as possible to make tahajud easier. Some say the 40 minute rule is ok, including yourself.

So just to clarify if I were to pray the Isha 50 minutes directly after the Maghrib adhaan, would this be valid & acceptable? Even if in Melbourne, Australia? And would this be valid and acceptable regardless of location in Australia or globally? Can you maybe elaborate on this for me a little more.

And if to go to bed straight after my isha and adhkar and wake up at any time even if before midnight and pray tahajud would this also be valid & acceptable?

4: Can you please refer me to some Shafi fiqh books that are readily available in English not including Reliance of Traveler & Maqasid, as I already have these.

Afwan Jazakullah Sidi. Barik Allahu fiq.

Wasalam

Answer:

1. Yes, in the Shafii school tahajjud is defined as what is prayed after both Salat al-Isha and sleeping. That is, even if before midnight.

2. Lexically subh refers to the time of morning while Fajr describes the actual cleaving (Fajr) of the dawn; fiqh-wise they are synonyms for both the time and the prayer prayed in that time; Qur’anically the term for prayer is Fajr while subh is more generic for morning.

3. According to Imam al-Shafii’s final position it would be acceptable globally. You can go to here and click “Calculation Method: Click here to change” then click “Twilight Angle and Time Difference –> fajr” and choose “isha = 50 minutes after maghrib Time.” Then click “Calculate prayer times” and you will generate a monthly/annual schedule of prayer with that criterion.

As for tahajjud time validity the answer is yes as already stated, and some of the sources even specify “even if people are not yet asleep.”

4. Matn Abi Shuja’ has received a reliable English translation.

See here and here.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Dream: In the queue

Posted on February 15, 2013 by Imam Yassir Chadly

Dream:

Assalamoaleikum,

I like a white girl and she likes me too. I have a lot of the dreams about her nearly everyday.

Some nights ago I dreamed that we were in the queue. I don’t know what for the queue was. In the queue I was ahead and she was behind and she was starring at me.

Could you tell me the meaning of this?

Jazakalla

Interpretation:

Audhu billahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajim
Bismi-llāhi r-raḥmāni r-raḥīm:

wa `alaykum salam,

This dream can mean that you have plenty of signs to go and ask her hand for marriage.

And Allah (swt) knows best.

Yassir Chadly

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Cockiness to Allah (swt) and Prophets pbuh

Posted on February 14, 2013 by Ustadh Abdul Shakur Hadi

Question:

Assalam u alaiku wa rahmatullahe,

About 8 years ago I started to accept every situation and every problem from destiny and Allah swt, and tried to not react against people. Everything changed, I was losing everything, had no success in my job, no money, family problems, no health, no country. Once I had a bad day I could not control myself and I did cockiness to Allah and Prophet pbuh. Since, I regret it and am asking for forgiveness. I don’t know if Allah swt and Prophet pbuh forgive me or not but I can’t forgive myself.  Tell me what to do. Please. May Allah give you reward for it.

Wa salam

Answer:

Wa`alaykumussalam,

Perhaps you were young and did not learn much about Islam. Now you may be older and wiser. Then keep on seeking knowledge of your religion and do good deeds with good intentions. If you have made repentance already, perhaps Allah Almighty has accepted that.

Abdul Shakur

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He makes me a better Muslim but he’s gone

Posted on February 14, 2013 by Hajjah Faridah

Question:

Salam,

We are 2nd cousins, he lives in another country, but his intentions were always marriage. Mid September he broke contact off and said he didn’t want me aymore and that he didn’t  believe in love any more especially with someone who lives in a European country as he wasn’t sure what I was doing…

I have been trying to get things back to how they were but he’s given me his final decision yesterday and he swore that he wouldn’t ever want me back.

Now with him being the first love of mine, I want him to be the last too and o want to marry this boy. My life has become meaningless without him, with him I am a better person, a better Muslim but now he’s gone I feel so lost

Please can you suggest anything?

Answer:

Alaikumusalam,

Pray Salatul Hajat with niat and du’a, ask for guidance from Allah and if you are meant to be together; but if not then open your heart, there is always a right man out there whom you deserve better. Not all that we want is good for us and not all the bad that happens is really bad, there is wisdom in it, and Allah knows best.

Recite Hasbunallahu Wa ni’malwakil 100x after salat. May you have a clear mind and strong heart. Wasalam.

Hajjah Faridah

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Serious Problem

Posted on February 14, 2013 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

Assalam Walaikum Shaheb,

I can’t leave without my wife & children. Really, if they cannot come in my life I will die, that’s for sure. I want your help. I want any good dua or wazifa, my wife has taken khula on 27.11.12.

I got married last 5 & half years back, my life was very good. She used to love me a lot & my kids also. We were a happy family. On 13/10/2012 she told me she wanted a khula. I have cried a lot. She is locking the door from outside. From that day up until now she hasn’t   she communicated with me. And even they are not calling my family. The only 1 word she is telling me that she wants a khula & she hates me & my kids now. Please do something that she returns back in my life inshallah.

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

Recite Ya Wadud x100 after each of the five Salat. Recite Hasbiya Allah wa ni`ma al-Wakil x1000 daily for 40 days.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Seeing Unpleasant Dreams

Posted on February 14, 2013 by Hajjah Faridah

Question:

Salaam. May Allah (SWT) Bless you in His Lights.

Thank you for responding to my post. I am grateful. For some time I have struggled with my ego. I dream unpleasant dreams, which make me believe I am unworthy of good thoughts. Last night I dreamt of a baby girl sucking my cheek, but it felt more like she was biting a hole in my face. I was laughing but felt awkward at the same time. When I removed the baby from my face there was no hole, and I felt no pain.

My daughter-in-law is expecting, Alhamdulillah. Recently, there’s been some tension between us, caused by a member of my family.  I am extremely ashamed and embarrassed. My whole life seems to be one big mountain that I am unable to climb. I feel I want to give up. Allah Forgive me. Not sure who to talk to that will understand.

Answer:
wa `alaykum salam,

When people know the benefits of reciting the Holy Quran and Salawat, their life will get filled with joy and happiness. Surrender all your struggles to Allah and get close and talk to Him. Call out His 99 names (Asmaul Husna) always and every day, pray, make dua a lot and recite Salawat as often as possible, it will erase your problems. Don’t pamper your ego, fight it. Bad dreams come from it. Make good relations with your daughter-in-law and think or act positive with the people who cause you tension. Allah will always be with you if you remember Him.

Hajjah Faridah

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