Assalamu’alaikum warohmatulloh wabarokatuh…Dalam adat jawa bulan muharram bukanlah bulan yang baik untuk melangsungkan aqad nikah. pertanyaannya bagaimana kita menyikapi hal itu?
Assalamu’alaikum warohmatulloh wabarokatuh…In Javanese custom the sacred month of Muharram is not a good month for getting nikah. The question is, how do we deal with it?
In Islam, the sacred month of Muharram is permissible for nikah without any dislike, and our liege lord Ali (r) married Fatima (r) in the month of Muharram as mentioned by Ibn Hajar in al-Isaba and elsewhere. What is impermissible is for the person in the pilgrim state (ihram), i.e. the muhrim, to marry or propose or give away their trustee in marriage until they come out of ihram according to the hadith:
لا يَنكِح المحرم ولا يُنكح ولا يخطُب
A Muhrim should neither marry himself, nor should he have marriage performed on his behalf, nor should he propose. (In Sahih Muslim and the Sunan)
For more (in Arabic) you may see here. And Allah knows best.
Hajj Gibril Haddad