Angry, aggressive, withdrawn husband


My husband is emotionally abusive and has been physical with me and my eldest daughter, who is five. He has violent mood swings and is often withdrawn and sulking after he gets angry. Is he possessed? It is torture to live with him, please advise.


Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatu,

InshaAllah Allah (swt) will make your affairs easy in dunya and in akhira. First, realize that patience and perseverance in any test, no matter how big or small, is means to reach a higher rank of walaya. Many of the awliyaullah, such as Sidi Ahmad b. Ajiba, suffered tremendous pain at the hands of his wife and Allah (swt) made it a cause for him to reach higher rank of walaya.

The most important thing now is to try and change the energy in your house by always having Qur’an recited, especially Surah Baqarah for seven days in a row at least. Then, also try to keep Qur’an recording playing at all times, as well as Dala’il al-Khayrat and qasidas or dhikr. Try to make every corner of the house filled with one of these recordings (Qur’an in one place, Dala’il al-Khayrat in another corner and dhikr/qasidas in another). Then also try to stop and remove any bad energy from your house, such as bad tv programs, pictures or sounds.

InshaAllah all of this will help spread the love of Allah (swt) and noor an-Nabi, salla Allahu `alayhi wa sallim, in your house and family.

Ali Hussain

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