Sex in marriage


Assalaam alaikum,

Can I buy my wife leather trousers or leather, PVC or latex catsuits as they really sexually excite me. I am talking about the kind of clothes that American women wear in films to look sexy. My e-mail address is [private] in case I miss the answer on this website.


Salamu Alaikum,

According to Sharia, your wife is allowed to wear whatever she chooses as long as it is in the confines of your home and no one else can see her. So, strictly speaking it is not haram for you to buy such clothes for her.

However, please note that there are several issues regarding this matter:

1. It is not proper for a husband to force his wife to do anything she does not wish to do. Even if it is your right to command her to wear what you chose, forcing her is a sign of disrespect towards her and builds hatred and enmity between you.

2. You say that these types of clothes excite you sexually when you see American women wear them in films. Can you ask yourself please if it is halal for you to watch such films and get sexually excited? Do you think Prophet (pbuh) is happy with you watching such things? You can answer these questions by yourself.

3. Our Prophet (pbuh) warned us not to follow the footsteps of the unbelievers. Wanting your wife to dress as an American woman is precisely an example of what the Prophet (pbuh) warned us about. We should want our wives to be like the wives of Prophet (pbuh) and the wives of our Shaykhs. These are the examples we should set for our wives.

So it is highly discouraged to dress your wife in these clothes even if there is no specific Sharia prohibition.

And Allah and His Prophet know best.

Hajj Khalid Aboulela

About Khalid Aboulela

A Sudanese Egyptian living in the Niagara Region of Ontario, Hajj Khalid graduated from the American University in Cairo majoring in Chemistry and Imperial College, London with an MBA. He has studied under Mawlana Shaykh Nazim al-Haqqani and Shaykh Hisham Kabbani for almost 30 years. He is fluent in classical Arabic prose and poetry and has ijaza from Shaykh Nazim to lead dhikr, answer questions to students of Islamic sciences, and to interpret dreams.
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