I do not Believe in Divorce but..

Question:

As-salaam alaikom,

My husband is not compatible with me I only married him because both our parents wanted us to marry. I have caught him many times dating other girls. He also does not share anything with me, I am not allowed to know how much money he makes, where he works, who he is talking to, I can’t look at his phone or computer. I am only with him for our baby. Everyone is telling me to leave him but I don’t believe in divorce and my husband knows that I don’t believe in divorce so he is pushing my limit to see how much patience I can give before I divorce him. He secretly wants a divorce but he doesn’t want to divorce me, he wants me to divorce him so he could tell everyone I was the “bad” one. What is the right thing to do?

Answer:

Alaykum salam,

Constantly not cohabiting with you, or not covering your needs, or abusing you are all grounds for divorce especially if you are both in agreement as to incompatibility. However, Allah Most High will create compatibility and love between you with some mutual effort in sha Allah, and a lot of patience and forgiveness. If that is your wish then recite Ya Wadud x100 daily and remind your husband of his everlasting responsibility toward dependents in the eyes of Allah as this is not a game.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Marriage Partner of my Choice

Question:

Salam Ya Shaykh and Eshaykh Staff,

I love a woman whom I wish to marry, but my parents want me to get married to someone else what should I do because I don’t think they will allow me to marry my choice.

Answer:

wa `alaykum salam,

If your parents refuse to give their consent to marry a moral woman and instead seek a corrupt person for you, then you don’t have to follow their course of action. I hope that is not the case. Therefore, seek the blessings of your parents.

Imam Senad Agic
Head Imam (IABNA)
The Islamic Association of Bosniaks in North America
American Islamic Center – Chicago

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Sad Face

Question:

assalamu alaikum,

Many people tell me that i have a “long” face and look sad most of the time. Is there any way to change this so i look more cheerful?

Answer:

Audhubillahiminashaytanirajeem
BismillahirRahmanirRahim
:

wa `alaykum salam,
Be aware that when you are among people that a smile is charity. Allah says: In the Mercy of Allah and His favor let them rejoice and be happy.

Wallahu alam.

Kamau Ayyubi

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Dream: 4 Symbols

Dream:

I dreamed that I was with a congregation of people and we were walking some where I was in front carrying a plate with food, burning candle, sword and a branch of a tree.

We were walking and I’m not sure if I saw a graveyard or something like an altar or a table.  I putted the plate and the candle on the altar or table. The sword was huge and heavy, I took it and stuck it in to the ground. The branch of the tree which seem to be a bit dry was written on it Bismillahirahman-irahim. In the crowd there was one men who could not believe that I had managed to do all this so he had to convince him self that I did it all on my own. Can you please help me in telling me what these 4 symbols mean and interpreted the dream. Thank you

Interpretation:

Congregation is mercy, candle is guidance, food is knowledge, sword is dhikr and branch is life and Sunna. An excellent dream signifying levels in Religion both here (table) and hereafter (grave) for you.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Dream: Tablets at Gravesite

Dream:

Salams,
I saw myself visit a graveyard to look for my grandma’s medication which she lost. I didn’t find her medicine but saw 2 white tablets on grave no 301 (which i think was my relative). I collected these tablets but didn’t give them to my grandma as they weren’t hers. Please could you tell me what this means. Jasakallah.

Interpretation:

Bismillahi’r’rahmani’r’raheem.

wa `alaykum salam,
You are seeking a sacred or hidden knowledge from your past that is connected with your family roots. Insha’Allah you are going to find unexpected
knowledge.

And Allah knows best.

Yassir Chadly

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Prayer Request: My Neighbour

Request:

Oh Shaykh Muhammad Nazim and Shaykh Hisham can you please pray for my neighbor, Uncle [private] who sadly passed away today. Also, I have been seeking job for quite a long period of time, can you give me something to read in which would make it easier to get employed? May Allah swt always keep you blessed with his blessings and give me love for his people Ameen.

Response:

Audhubillahiminashaytanirajeem
BismillahirRahmanirRahim
:

Recite hasbunallah wa ni’m al wakeel 100x a day and keep searching.
Inshallah the shaykh is praying for you and uncle.

Wallahu alam.

Kamau Ayyubi

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Dream: White Birds

Dream:

Salam alaikum,

I had a dream I entered my house and I saw many white birds with red robes on. I put my hand near the bird and it sat on my hand and then sat on my head. The white birds were pleasant to look at. What could this mean?

I also had a dream an old man with white clothes who said to me that my sins are forgiven and I will be happy in the Akhira.

I also had a dream that I was reading Qur’an.

Jazakallah khair

Interpretation:

Bismi’llahi’r’Rahmani’r’Raheem.

wa `alaykum salam,
The zikr that you do is the white birds that you saw don’t let go of the dzikr. Allah is blessing you. Stay on that good habit … It is a good dream. With the dzikr your sins are forgiven, so keep up the good work.

And Allah knows best.

Yassir Chadly

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Dream: Imam Ali (RA) in Dream and Maulana Rumi(RA):

Dream:

Dear Shaykh,

I hope you are in good health. Mash Allah may Allah reward you for this good deed. Two years ago I had a dream where I saw Imam Ali(RA) , although I feel I was not fully asleep at the time. He had his back towards me, and then turned and as he was looking at me light started shining from his face. When I awoke, the state of my heart was totally changed. I think you may understand this feeling, and I was crying for sometime after this event.
Last year I saw another dream. Maulana Jalaluddin Rumi visits my home, and I go and hold his hand and start to cry. He turns to my father and says something about me. Please tell me the meaning of these dreams. I feel I’m not good enough to see these personalities, and I want to change myself.

Interpretation:

Audhubillahiminashaytanirajeem
BismillahirRahmanirRahim
:

These dreams should be motivation to strive to improve in spirituality. Your soul is supported by S. Ali and Rumi and Mawlana shaykh Nazim is the living shaykh holding their inheritance.

Wallahu alam.

Kamau Ayyubi

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Dream: Bangles in Mosque

Dream:

AOA

I saw a girl (don’t know her) showed me colorful bangles in a blue mosque. I think we were sitting for prayer. Please tell me what does it mean?

JazakAllah

Interpretation:

Bismi’llahi’r’Rahmani’r’Raheem.

Assuming your are a man, this dream could mean your desire to get married in a halal way, represented by the blue mosque.

And Allah knows best.

Yassir Chadly

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Wearing of Sunnah Clothing in Public

Question:

Assalamu alaykum wR wB,

Dear Mawlana Shaykh Hisham,

While many of your male mureeds understand the rewards of wearing sunnah clothing, some of us feel wary in certain public places of displaying any outward indication that we are Muslim. For instance, at airports, or at our workplaces, etc. The negativity felt by non-Muslims towards Muslims in America is at an all-time high, and while it is ignorant and unjustified, it is nevertheless a reality. For myself personally, I don’t even like to wear a kufi when at an airport, since it might trigger more hassle at the security checkpoints than otherwise might happen. I even tell my wife not to wear a scarf when going through airport security. Is my stance on this point valid, or should I just be more courageous and trust that Allah will protect me from this negativity? Thanks for your answer, may Allah Bless you.

Answer:

wa `alakum salam,

Alhamdulillah, Shaykh Hisham has already addressed your questions in a previous post.

Staff

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