Etiquettes of sex

Posted on December 2, 2012 by Shaykh Senad Agic

Question:

Assalamu alaikum,

Please may I ask the Hanafi ruling:

1) My wife rarely reaches complete satisfaction. We found that if she touches her own private areas during sex whilst I share a fantasy story she sometimes is satisfied. Provided we only do such an action with us both present and this is the only way she has reached an orgasm thus far, what is the ruling on this?

2) Do bed sheets that have filth on them have to be changed after sex to be pure? If the filth dries up or one sleeps on the area with no filth after ghusl, is one pure and able to pray? Are the bed sheets pure after the drying up of filth?

3) If one’s clothes do not have any filth on them after sex, are they pure? Can a person pray in these after ghusl?

Answer:

wa `alaykum salam,

1. The Qur’an and Sunnah are silent on this issue. Therefore, one cannot rule it as ‘haram‘.

2. It would suffice if you could wash the places where the semen has fallen, and be available even for prayer. If the semen has dried, there is no harm in removing the semen with the nails.

3. If one’s clothes do not have any filth (najasah) on them after sex, they are pure and one can pray in them.

Shaykh Senad Agic

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The Aqida of Ibn al-Mubarak

Posted on December 2, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

Assalamu `alaykum sheikh Gibril,

What is an acceptable interpretation of the statement of Abdullah Ibn al-Mubarak related by Uthman al-Darimi in his refutation of al-Marisi:

روى إسحاق بن إبراهيم الحنظلي عن ابن المبارك أنه قال رأس المنارة أقرب إلى الله من أسفله

Ishaq bin Ibraheem Al-Handhali narrated that Ibn Al-Mubarak said: The top of the minaret is closer to Allah than it’s bottom.

http://islamport.com/d/1/aqd/1/327/1572.html

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

Ishaq b. Rahuyah and Ibn al-Mubarak were great Imams and they both knew very well that the Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) said the closest the servant is to his Lord is in sujud (Bukhari and Muslim). Therefore, either this statement was never said or it is interpreted figuratively, e.g. minara to mean the human body and the top meaning the mind. Furthermore, it is known that ‘Uthman al-Darimi’s book is problematic and, finally, as Imam Ahmad said: “Ibn al-Mubarak did not descend from heaven.”

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Dream: Mahdi (AS)

Posted on December 2, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Dream:

Assalamu Alaikum Sultan ul Awliya Mawlana Sheikh Nazim, Mawlana Sheikh Hisham Kabbani and the eshaykh team.

Please interpret this dream for my wife. My wife have seen that she, her mother and Mahdi (AS) in the same room. She wanted to learn Quran from Mahdi (AS) and then Mahdi (AS) touched her, she was scared and ran back to her mom. Her mom told her to go back to Mahdi (AS) and she went back and Mahdi (AS) wanted to touch her again. She gave the Quran back to him and ran away from the room.

We are very ashamed about this dream, but wanted to know meaning of this. Sorry for lacking of my adabs.

Zazak Allah Khair.

Interpretation:

Alaykum Salam,

Touching points to transmission of knowledge. However if perceived as an inappropriate act or appearance from those who represent Shari’a in dreams such as Anbiya or Awliya, then it reflects the state of the dreamer or household.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Prayer Request: Everything is blocked

Posted on December 2, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Request:

Slm,

Please make dua for me everything in my life has been stopped job, marriage, my life is a mess, truly, and the tests just keep coming health, relationships jealous loved ones …. I feel very broken and in need of a wiser hand in my life. Please make dua I reach the makaam Allah swt has willed and I am able to mobilize in my life again.

Response:

Mawlana Shaykh Hisham is praying for you. Remember Allah often and be happy as He is forcing you to remember Him because He does not leave you to yourself. Recite Ya Haleem, Ya Kafi x100 daily.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Request for Ijaza

Posted on December 2, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

AsSalamu Alaikum,

I‘m Student of Dars-e-Nizami and my course will be completed within 5 months.
My Grandfather gives me 4 books of Aurad-o-Wazaif-wa-Tawizaat of different Salasil, I’m using it and give wazifa-or-taweez to the peoples according to their spiritual problems, Al-Hamdulillah their problem are solved but I want special permission of the following also want permission to use these books and give to others.

1. Dalailul Khairat & Dalail-e-Hayrat
2. Naqshbandi Book of Devotions (Daily Wazaif accompanying each prayer) and also give me permission to translate this book in Urdu Language
3. Khatm-e-Khuwajgan
4. Hazb-e-Bahar & Hazb-e-Nasr
5. Dua-e-Saifi & Musbba’atul Ashar
6. Qasiba Burda Shareef
7. Write Naqshbandi Tawizaat by hand
8. Al-Asma-ul-Husana & Names of Holy Prophet(SW)
9. All Surat of Quran-e-Majeed
10. Zikr & Muraqba also give detail
11. Dua-e-Dawood(AS) & all Salawaat
12. Dua Al-Mukhammas
13. Fatah-e-Rabbani
14. Dawr al Akbar of Shaykh Muhyi Uddin(RA)

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

You may take bayaa online with Mawlana Shaykh Nazim (Allah bless his secret) and observe the waza’if described at Naqshbandi.org.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Wife threatening to leave Islam

Posted on December 2, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

Salaamu alakum wr wb. Bismillah Rahmaani Rahiim.

My wife has great problems being a Muslima. The major problems she has is accepting the following ahadeeth:

1) “The majority of the people in hell-fire are women.”

2) “I have not seen any one more deficient in intelligence and religion than you (women).”

There has been several other isuues as well, but after some research we have found them to be either misquotes, weak ahadith or taken out of context. Jazaakumullahu Khayran.

Answer:

`Alaykum Salam,

(1) The majority of people are women, period. As for Muslim women, they will all be in Paradise without exception.

(2) The contextual meaning is a hyperbole to show that Divine generosity and reward is  just as great for women despite less credit for them in dunya.

Allah Most High said 49:13 … {Truly the most honorable of you [male/female, human tribes] are the most Godfearing.} And He said: 2:195 {and do not throw yourselves by your own hands into destruction.}

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Eid ul Azha Qurbani 2012

Posted on December 2, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

Assalamaolikum warahmatullah he wabarakatuhu ya Mashaikh!

May Allah give you all higher stations in Wilayat and may you keep climbing every minute. Ameen Sum Ameen.. May Allah keep all of us under the umbrella of Shaikh Haqqani Rehmatullah and Shaikh Hisham Rehmatullah in this world, our graves and on the Judgement Day. Ameen sum Ameen.

Out of love of Molana Shaiikh Nazim Haqqani Rehmatullah I did one part sacrifice in cow this past Eid ul Azha in his name. Now that I think about it, is it considered as bad manners since I did not take permission? I am confused. If this is wrong please forgive me for my lack of knowledge.

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

Amin.
Thank you and may Allah reward you.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Fabricated Hadiths

Posted on December 2, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

Asalamualaykum,

Why do scholars quote fabricated hadiths? Leading scholars of hadith such as Shaykh Muhammad al Yaqoubi is quoted this hadith: There is an angel at my head that conveys to me the prayers my Ummah send upon me except on Fridays, I hear with my own ears and I answer with my own tongue…

Answer:

`Alaykum Salam,

Every part of this hadith is independently confirmed as true.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Prayer Request: Problems at the office

Posted on December 2, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

Asalamu alaykum Sayidi,

Sayidi, Alhamdulillah, after much misfortune and spending  years inside an apartment, it’s my sponsors here in Kuwait who’ve hired me to work for them at their office. Alhamdulillah, a month has come to pass since I joined them.

Sayidi, almost everyone at the office is nice to me, I’m learning new things pertaining to my job, and I try to keep myself from hurting anyone’s ego. However, there’s this one individual who’s constantly meddling in what I and everybody else is does. I remember your sohba on how there’s a tyrant in every home; He is that tyrant at the office.

Kindly, bestow a recitation upon me, so that he doesn’t harm me in any way, because I’ve become the center of his attention and he constantly tries to keep me from doing my job happily and effectively.

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

Ya Aziz, Ya Qahhar x100 daily.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Prayer Request: Husband not happy with me

Posted on December 2, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Request:

Assalamu alaikum,
Since our marriage two and a half years ago, I’ve been trying my sincere best to be a good wife, but my husband keeps finding fault with me. He has repeatedly said that I’m not the kind of wife he wanted nor this is the kind of life he wanted. A year ago he almost divorced me. We have a daughter, but i fear a failed marriage or divorce. Please pray for us. Thank you.

Allah bless you!

Response:

Alaykum Salam,

It is weak iman not to give thanks for a faithful loving wife but do your best and in sha Allah he will come around. Recite daily Ya Halim, Ya Wadud x100.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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