My husband seems to spend all his spare time with the Shaykh’s events, online, reading books and has little time for me and the children. We rarely have vacations together because he is traveling to be with the Shaykh. If the Shaykh tells him “do this” he drops everything to do it. Is this fair in Islam?
Consider your husband’s work and activity on behalf of a true murshid to be like that of the Sahaba around Rasulullah (s). They gave every moment of their lives, every drop of their blood, sweat and tears and every penny they had for his love. It was only thus that they achieved the Station of Annihilation in the Prophet (s). Don’t think you are losing time with your beloved, rather he is approaching the Divine Presence by dint of his activity and thereby bringing that blessing and benefit to you and your children. So next time you plan a vacation, plan it to be with your husband and the Shaykh.
Shaykh Hisham says:
Good tidings, then, to those who have taken initiation from a perfect and complete shaykh because they have been connected with one who is connected with the Prophet (s) and the Prophet (s) is connected with the Secret of Secrets, the most hidden oceans of realities of creation.
That is why we say that following the order of the Shaykh will take you to presence of the Prophet (s). He will introduce you and, if you follow the orders of Sayyīdinā an-Nabī it will take you to the presence of Allāh swt.
[excerpts from Fifty Days: The Divine Disclosures During a Holy Sufi Seclusion]