Relationship before marriage


I met a girl who is also Muslim and I at the time fell in love with her. It was 6 months last week since we got together, however, guilt was within my heart over the period of the 6 months and I occasionally made her aware of it also. Yet I continued on the wrong path until last week I couldn’t take the guilt no more and decided to end the relationship.. I need help with how to increase my imaan because although I claim to have left the relationship.. I still struggle to keep her off my mind. I’m trying to pray regularaly but still, my heart still contains feelings for her . .. May Allah swt give me the strength to continue on this path that I have now chosen and reward you and all those who will help me with regards to my problem.. Salam


wa `alaykum salam,

Iman increases by increasing acts of obedience. This is made easier by keeping company with friends of Allah (Awliya). In time Allah Most High will help you focus your mind again. Keeping prayer is the distinguishing mark of your identity as a believer, so it should have
non-negotiable status in your heart.

Falling in love is not wrong when the intention is marriage, and that is the path a marriageable person takes with the opposite sex as encouraged in the Qur’an and the Sunnah. Marriage is meant as a blessing that opens the doors of material and spiritual sustenance, and our teachers emphasize it greatly.

Recite Ya Latifu Ya Karim 100 times everyday after prayer with the intention to surrender to Allah and He will help you.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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