Question:
Assalamualaikum,
My dad has a narrow opinion of everything. He reads only Tafseer, and only believe in whatever that he understands from it, hardly giving credit to other views.
Hence, he’s often gets very angry over things. For example, in the Quran it is mentioned about the analogy of a Tree. If its roots are good, it will bear good fruits. Therefore, my mother would be blamed for most family mishaps. (My mother is one of the best women in the world!) Many other instances would lead him to assume the worst.
My father is a good man but he has a big ego. He would often think he is right because he reads the Quran. If I were to advise him, he would think I’m trying to be a traitor son who disrespects his father, and would go to hell if I die that moment. True? How do I approach this?
Answer:
wa `alaykum salam,
Be patient. Allah said, “Don’t say to them uffin and don’t try to scold them. Qul lahum qawlan kareem” . Speak to them in a nice way. Be patient, you will be rewarded and your mother will be rewarded. Don’t give advice to your father and don’t argue, as he is the type that doesn’t listen to anyone and will get angry. So read ya Halim 100 times daily.
Shaykh Muhammad Hisham Kabbani
