Disturbed by my marriage


As-salaamu’ alaykem

I am deeply disturbed about my ”marriage”. I married a man who promised me many things. He wasn’t able to meet his promises or do the basics as a husband providing for his wife. Most of the year being married, he was not able to provide me with accommodation, money or be a companion emotionally involved with me. 11 month’s of problems, insults, lies. He demands whenever it suits him. If I ever question him about anything he swears at me, tells me it’s not my business, and threatens me with divorce.

I have tried to be patient and find solutions to the problems. It seems now, he’s always in his own world.

I am scared of being alone. I do not have family or friends. I want to be married, have a family, however this does not seem like a marriage. Please can you advise me.


wa `alaykum salam,

If you love him and want to keep this marriage, you need to be patient. You need to be quiet, and don’t bother him. Maybe he has financial problems and can’t fulfill his promises. Insha-Allah soon this problem goes away, and you will be both happy. Married life is not easy. Recite daily:

  1. Pray 2 rak`ats and make du`a that these problems go away.
  2. Ya Halim 100 times
  3. Salawat upon the Prophet 100 times
  4. HasbunAllah RabbunAllah 100 times

Hajjah Naziha Adil

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