Daughter Lost Faith

Question:

My third husband abused my daughter. I didn’t find out till we separated. I have had a turbulent life and feel responsible. She used to pray and fast and has totally gone the opposite way. She has no belief. I am terrified of the consequences for her and me in this world and the next. She is my only child from second marriage.How should I handle her in view that she self harms?

Answer:

Your love speaks more to her than any sermon. Treat her with utmost leniency and tenderness and leave the rest to Allah Most High. He will make up for what she has endured and for the theft of her innocence through your prayers and He will bless you here and hereafter in sha Allah.

Hajj Gibril Hadad

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Dream: Lunch Invitation Declined

Dream:

Salam,

The dream starts with me in my house but it doesn’t look like my real house, and my in-laws came to have lunch without calling me first. I was very flustered because I didn’t have anything ready, I then fixed everything in a rush. I then went to my in-laws house to bring my brother-in-law’s wife to have lunch with us. I arrived and saw my sister-in-law whom I didn’t invite, she was showing me her 2 year old daughter whom looks different then how I remembered her, she had a little bit of hair and was wearing very little clothing. I then saw my brother-in-law’s wife. She was sitting on a high legged chair. I approached her and asked her to come. She refused. I said “Please come, I will carry you any way you like, on my back, or my shoulders, or even in my arms.” She refused.

Interpretation:

Audhu billahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajim
Bismi-llāhi r-raḥmāni r-raḥīm:

Wa `alaykumu s-salāmu wa rahmatu l-lāhi wa barakātuh,

It shows that you will face some difficulties. You may try to pay sadaqa daily as it will keep away problems and you may try also to recite daily 100 to 300 times “Hasbuna Allah wa ni’ma al Wakil.”

And Allah knows best.

Wissam

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Prayer Request: Prayer for protection from looking at haraam things

Request:

AsalamuAlaikum Ya Mawlana Shaykh Nazim,
Ya Mawlana Hisham, eshaykh staff! Ya Mawlana I would like to request you to pray for me to get rid of the bad act of looking at pornography and masturbating. The problem is, whenever I am alone I feel like watching such things like pornography. Then lust fills me and then I masturbate. After that I feel repentant and cry.  I involve in this same act again after some days. I have tried many times to protect myself from it but nafs/shaytan make me unsuccessful all the time. That’s why I am requesting you to help me ya Mawlana. I feel very shy to tell you about my problem. It has been 2 years since I started to involve in this act. I am not 18 years old yet.

Ya Mawlana please help me. Pray for me to be a pious, practicing, good Muslim and get rid of this haram act.

Response:

`Alaykum Salam,
Spend time in group dhikr, suhba of Mawlana, mosque and other good company. Remove internet from your room. Fast and pray Salat al-Najat before fajr. Be a fan of cold showers until you are ready to marry.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Muwakils and Shadows

Question:

As-Salam alaykum,

Beloved ones, after taking baya I experienced many things that I couldn’t explain. One thing that I have no idea about is something recently mentioned on eShaykh about muwakil beings. I read somewhere that the strongest ones appear in shadows or something….When I was praying there seemed to be something moving within my shadow that was trying to hide, but showed just enough for me to be sure something was there and I’m not crazy. Wondering if anyone can explain a bit, Insha’Allah. Many thanks. Much love…

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

May Allah put blessings in your bayaa and benefit you here and hereafter.
What you mentioned may be possible, for example the recording angels “in charge” (muwakkal) of every human beings. However, spiritual beings, jinn, and humans are all in the same boat so do not heed what is of no concern to us; rather, especially in Salat (prayer), forget all helpless creatures and leave this world behind as you are facing Divine Mercy and should pay no attention to anything else.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Understanding Qur’an

Question:

salaam,

I always get this question in my mind while reading the Qur’an, the incidents in the Qur’an are always quoted to be in context of the situation of the verse in which it was revealed so does that mean we should read Qur’an thinking of it to be meant for those incidents which took place at that time or taking Qur’an into modern age context as well? The stories of various incidents and prophets are old so how do i relate to them in this era,
I hope u understand my question and will help me understand Qur’an better by answering the question.

Allahafiz

Answer:

Wa’alaykumussalam,

Yes, you can do that – which is only one of the many ways. There are many ways to understand the Qur’an and many Tafsirs by our great scholars that may give you a variety of understanding, however doing it so on your own without guidance is not one of them. Mawlana Shaykh Nazim and Shaykh Hisham have made Tafsirs of many chapters of the Qur’an, and their explanations always relate to our modern lives. This is another means for you to understand further.

May Allah grants us understanding of the Qur’an and make us Ahl al-Qur’an!

Abdul Shakur

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Prayer Request: Help! I need dua from Sheikh!

Request:

Assalamualaikum,
I live in [private] and I have had a pornography problem for a long time now. I am now married and I still cant stop. When I’m at work I also can not stop looking at other women. Most of the women are dressed very badly where we can see all body parts. One day day the sexual urge becomes so strong that I was going to visit a prostitute. I was fighting my nafs for 2hrs that day to decide on taking the step. I then called out Sheikh Nazim to help me and by miracle I turned away and went home. I felt relieved then but I still continued to look at pornography on internet. Please ask Sheikh Nazim for dua. I do not prefer this lifestyle.

Response:

`Alaykum Salam,
Allah gave you purity in your life in the form of your wife. Embrace her and give thanks in your heart every time. Observe Salat al-Najat before Fajr. In time Allah will uproot that habit from you.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Teacher and student cooperation

Question:

Assalaamu Alaykum dearest shayukh,

I am a high school teacher at an affluent Muslim school in South Africa. The learners of this school are RUDE, disrespectful, arrogant and refuse to stop chatting in order for me to conduct an effective lesson. They have no adaab whatsoever despite it being a Muslim school and despite the principal lecturing them daily about this. What duah or special Quraanic verses can I recite before I teach for the learners to cooperate?

Yours in Islam,
Sister__

Answer:

`Alaykum Salam,

Ask one of them to come up and recite some Qur’an to begin classes. Give them recognition. This way Allah will bless the process and they will want to listen to each other and to you.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Prayer Request: To save our relationship

Request:

Asalamualaikum,
Madad ya Sheikh Hisham…how I miss to feel to be close with you. I need your guidance…
I would like to ask some help whether you can pray for me and my partner that once has been lost but Allah bring back to me again now its been 5 years we been together then the things between us is getting difficult…seems we are losing our love, our trust, and our respect for each other. What can I do to bring back the love again between us…to save our relationship…I love him so much…

astaghfirullah

Response:

Alaykum Salam,
Marry and keep your five daily prayers, barakah will fill your life in sha Allah.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Prayer Request: Suffering Constant Failure in High School Exams

Request:

Asslalaikum,
My name is [private]. I am 2_ and a student of 12th year (high school). I have been suffering from failure in my high school final exams for the past 2.5 years now, People incompetent then me have passed the exams and I’m about 3 years in at the same stage without success. This has caused great loss to my educational/career years to come. My failures have caused too much concerns and sadness to my family, myself and relatives. I am also suffering from disheartening and feeling of defeat. I have prayed to ALLAH so much for my success in the examination along with my parents and grand parents who have also have been praying for me during Umrah in Makkah for my success in the exams. In the end I have faced failure and struggled to pass this important stages of my life. WaSalam.

Response:

`Alaykum Salam,
Recite Surat Tabarak after Isha daily.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Dhikr with turban

Question:

Aslaam Alaikum,

I’ve asked before if I could do dhikr with other groups and was told yes but have to wear the turban. Do you what kind of turban? Or can I wear the four pointed hat/four faced cap?

JazakhAllah Khair

Answer:

`Alaykum Salam,

Yes, just wear a cap. The turban has more reward and we define it as the type worn by Mawlana Shaykh Nazim (Allah bless his secret) and his murids worldwide, especially for Salat.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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