Question:
As-salaamu ‘alaykum,
I am in a really confused state at the moment and would like to know if this brother who has proposed to get to know me for marriage, is the right one for me.
I really care about him and feel that we share a strong bond but he is already in a marriage that is not working with children.
Answer:
Alaykum Salam,
Make wudu’ and pray two rakaat with niyya and sincerity. Follow the decision that is inspired to your heart.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
Question:
Assalamu Alaikum
I am a divorced lady with a kid.Now one of my colleague has come with a marriage proposal and he wants to marry me. The problem is he is 4 yrs younger than me. I don’t know what to do. I tried convincing him by telling that am divorced and all, but he is very serious in his decision and he wants to marry me. I dont know what to do. Please suggest me a way.
Answer:
Alaykum Salam,
Age difference is not great but does he realize the responsibility? Make wudu’, pray two rakaats and follow the inspiration you receive.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
Question:
Aslaam shaykh .. I am writing to ask for a wazeefa and advice on my family problems. Our house is always full of a bad atmosphere. I am always having problems and arguments with my parents, brother and sisters. There is no real love between us viable, maybe there is love hidden but not visible love.
I need urgent help and advice. There are wedding plans for the future but how can I get married when our house is not peaceful.
I ask for dua from Mawlana and Shaykh Hisham. Please give me a wazeefa too. I am sorry for any lack of adab .. May Allah bless you and shower his mercy upon you.
Answer:
Alaykum Salam,
Make dhikr quietly and regularly. Allah will put a garden of paradise in your house, take away sins, and increase mutual love and light.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
Question:
Asllam Aleykum,
May Allah swt have mercy on you and the ummati of Muhammad sallahu alehi waslaam.
This question is for my daughter who is extremely depressed. Her husband has three wives her being second. A day before she moved x came to say goodbye to his son, then somehow he said the divorce didn’t go through so they’re now a couple. She still moved to my city and he helped her move the next day. Now he has refused to visit, with so many excuses. My daughter has to make the trips there by train and coz he lives with his mother and shes not allowed to go there and who has dogs in the house. She has to stay in a hotel but she has to pay for it his forcing her to move back with no financial help. She’s on state benefits. Please advise. walkum sallam
Answer:
Alaykum Salam,
Failing to provide financial support for four consecutive months or more is grounds for the wife to ask for divorce and the husband is obligated to grant it, as it is a precondition of marriage.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
Question:
Assalamualaikum,
I am 22 years old female who has problems getting married. My relatives are searching for a man. An Awliya of Allah asked my mother and me to recite salathun nariya for a number of days . MashaAllah, we finished it. My mother asked me to marry my cousin brother who i have no interest in and the Awliya of Allah approved of the union. I don’t like the person and i’m scared of refusing my cousin as i might displease Allah by not following His Awliya. Ya sayyidi, should i go ahead even though i don’t like the person? Is it wrong of me? Please make dua for my marriage. Are there any recitals i can do to get married? Also, when my mother found out that this marriage will take place only after 3-4 years, she backed off. But this marriage is approved by Awliya.
JazakAllah
Answer:
Alaykum Salam,
Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) said not to delay marriage but do it promptly. Your mother is right.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
Question:
Dear brother i have lived in the state of ingotincr of the rules of purit and a few years ago i have suffering from ocd. It made my misteable from past two years. I use to have urine on my trouser or underwear and i didn’t made wether my cloth wet and touch other objective i didn’t mainf.
Also since i have urienon my underwear and when i have a wet dream and semen transfer in to cloth i didn’t change. I would have semen on cloth and i would go to my brother room and sit there. I have use there objective. Now washing them impossbilr. What should i do.
Most thing I doubt i do people would have touch it while there hands were wet.
May Allah reward you, for your good work!
Answer:
Each day is a fresh start so clean up little by little. Allah is forgiving.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
Question:
Dearest Shaykh,
ASA
I am suffering from Schizophrenia type illness. Suitors want to talk to me ,see me on Skype. My father won’t allow this; he is deliberately cruel to me, as is my mother.I am kept ‘under surveillance’ at all times. They both practice black magic and he has sent jinns on me. I did Salat al Fatih, Ya Fattahu, Ya Razzaqu and many other zikr to help me get married to a man who was interested in me. But my heart has got broken once again. My problem is living with parents and not having enough money to move out. I am 45. Shall I give up pursuing marriage ? Also my father has done some zikr to make me keep spending my money and not being able to save so that I cannot move out. I feel suicidal from being used, abused and treated cruelly. Thank you.
Answer:
Alaykum Salam,
Continue to follow medical advice. Your illness means you must give excuses to yourself and all those around you. You are in Allah’s good care and no harm will come to you except it will be turned into goodness, because Allah tasks no soul beyond its capacity. Therefore think the best of your family, forgive them, always cheer up and continue with your dhikr and try to abide by the rules of your caretakers who love you. You will get reward and benefit here and hereafter in sha Allah.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
Question:
As salam o aleykum,
I have intention to travel this year and perform Umrah with the intention of visiting Prophet (pbuh). I would like to ask permission and secondly, if you can recommend any texts which i can use as guidebook either in English or Arabic.
wasalams
Answer:
Alaykum Salam,
You have permission and may use the Reliance of the Traveler or, in Arabic, the book of Sayyid Muhammad Alawi on Hajj or that of Dr. Nur al Din `Itr on Hajj according to all four schools.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
Question:
Assalaamualiakum, my husband was working out of town for last 2 yrs. I recently got to know he is having an affair and stays with a lady and her kids. I have a 7 yrs old daughter and don’t want my house to break like this. I want my husband to leave her, come back to us forever and become a pious man. please do dua’a for me and if you could give me a wazeefa so husband comes back and become a good man. JazakALLAH Khair
Answer:
Alaykum Salam,
May Allah grant you the best in both worlds. “Affairs” and zina are haram in Islam and a big sin. Recite daily Ya Haleem, ya Wadud, ya Jabbar. Keep peace between yourselves. Insha Allah matters will improve.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
Question:
Asalamoalikum aw rahmatullahi . I would like to take some advice about my husband. He is following Sheikh Nazim for long time, reading zikr and praying. But last year he met knew person and has taken bayah with him. He said he had dream that Sheik Nazim send this new sheikh to him. Is my husband bayah with Sheik Nazim now invalid? Why Would Sheik Nazim do this? Also my husband stopped praying and not going mosque anymore because his new sheikh doesn’t pray and said that their level is high so don’t need to pray. Please help me for the sake of Allah and the prophet and Mawlana. What should I do? What can I recite to bring him back to Tariqah.
Jazak Allah
Answer:
Alaykum salam,
Mawlana Shaykh Nazim commands salat and to do obligations and sunnas to one’s utmost, always leading from darkness to light. However, some people hanker after the reverse and this is what they end up getting. Nevertheless we are all works in progress and tawba is required of all at all times. Let him repent and make up the prayers he missed, and go back to following the light and leave darkness and false shaykhs behind. Recite Hasbiya Allah Rabbiya Allah daily x100 or more.
Hajj Gibril Haddad
