Dream: Head cover

Dream:

Assalamu alaikum,

I had the following dream where my ex husband took me to front of a mirror and put a scarf over my head which I bought when I went to Umrah. Please tell me whether there’s any meaning to this. I normally do wear a hijab.

Interpretation:

A`udhu billahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajeem

Bismillahi r-Rahmani r-Rahim.

Wa alaykum salam,

This dream can mean that your x husband want you to know that he support you.

And Allah (jj) knows best.

Yassir Chadly

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Breaking Fast

Question:

A’udhu Bil-Lahi min ash-Shaytani-r-Rajeem
Bismillahi ‘r-Rahmani ‘r-Rahim

As-Salamu alaykum wa Rahmatu l-lahi ta’ala wa Barakatuh!

Dear Shaykh,

Trust Shaykh is well? I just wanted to ask Shaykh, would it be ok if I break my fast daily with water mixed with some honey as I cannot eat dates.

Shukran

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

Of course it is permissible and actually sunna to use water. The Prophet
(upon him blessings and peace) said: “When breaking fast use dates for
they have baraka in them, or water for it is purifying.”

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Kissing Shaykh’s Hand Revisited

Question:

We are still seeing some people who object about Mawlana Shaykh Nazim calling himself the Sultan al-Awliya. Also they repeatedly bring up the objection of kissing his hand.

Answer:

wa `alaykum salam,

Shaykh Hisham has clarified, that Mawlana Shaykh never claimed to be Sultan al-Awliya, rather it is his mureeds who consider him so. He only says “I am nothing; I am the most humble servant of Allah; I am the most weak and helpless one.”

Regarding the kissing of hands, Mawlana Shaykh himself addressed this in detail (excerpted from interview on Sufismus-online):

Q: People object on your hands being kissed.

S.N: I am not a sultan. Let people go and kiss their hands! These people are envious, because they are not giving full respect to their Lord. If they were, people would respect them. Maybe I am respected in the Divine Presence and that is why people run up to me. I am not begging people to come up to me and to kiss my hands! They rush on me from all over the world and I do not tell them to go away. Why should I? Are my hands dirty? If they were I would prevent it.

But the hands of the people who oppose this are dirty with their dirty works. When people come close to a blessed person they feel familiarity and want to kiss and embrace. When a person wants to show their respect by kissing the hand it is not prohibited in the Islamic Shariah. No-one can bring any evidence that Muhammad* did not allow it.

Q: But not only men are kissing your hand, but women too. Is that allowed in Islam?

S.N: Do they have evidence on that? If that was prohibited we would not be allowed to approach our women. They have no fiqr [sic – fiqh]. (Quran, Surat 4, Ayat 43 {or ye have been in contact with women} and Surat 5, Ayat 6 {or ye have been in contact with women}). You may touch.

Q: For the mahram, or…?

S.N: [Surat] ..an-Nissa, is alif lam [I.e. al-nisaa] a sign for all women, or just for some? There is a secret reality there: You can touch a lady, but if your ego awakes with a bad desire it is prohibited. A person may touch his daughter or his mother and it is not prohibited. He may touch his wife and it could be prohibited. Nothing awakes in a person with his mahram, but if it is not a mahram it is dangerous. That is why the Shariah prevents you to touch without a reason. Otherwise a doctor couldn’t touch the body of a woman. No-one objects to the millions of ladies who every day go to the doctor and show everything. It did not exist at the time of the Prophet (s). When they give birth they show themselves completely! How can that be? Why do people not complain about that? Instead they come to me, a person who is 80 years old!

The Shariah does give the permission for the hands of prophets and their inheritors to be kissed. I do not tell the ladies to come and kiss my hand. No! They come to give their respects. I cannot refuse it, because I am calling Europeans, non Muslims, into Islam. They are still new and if I would prevent them from kissing my hand their hearts would be broken. They would accuse Islam of having no gentleness. We are not living in Saudi Arabia, Libya, Algeria, Turkey, Iran or in Pakistan! I am calling people here, in Europe. This is why we can use the methods which the Prophet (s) was using at the beginning of Islam. People at that time were also not using scarves. For the first 13 years in Mecca, they were mixing freely with men and not wearing scarves. All that came in Medina. The people who are accusing me of these points have no understanding of Islam. They are scholars, but empty!

Q: According to the Hanafi school what are the rules of a woman touching you without desires? Would you need an ablution?

S.N: All the four schools of thought were going to agree on this point, but then Imam Shafi prevented it. He wanted to close the door of fitna which arises through young people touching each other. Abu Hanifa gave the permission under a condition: if your feelings do not change and become haram, it is all right. If they do, it is prohibited in the school of Abu Hanifa too. When feelings change, our body awakens and we discharge, making our wudu invalid.

As well, see Shaykh Gibril’s lucid clarification:

“From the Shari`a viewpoint hand-contact between the sexes is wrong for someone who is not old. At the same time it is a fact that the conditions of da`wa in the West for a Sufi Shaykh who is completely accessible to hundreds of people a day on any given trip are such as to make contact unavoidable. It has nothing to do with a brains-vs.-heart opening. It is a practical matter.

The strongest proof for the conditional licitness of this particular situation for the da`i is probably the hadith of Anas in al-Bukhari, that the slave-women of Madina would take the Prophet (s) by the hand to ask whatever need they had.

The meaning of this is that even the lowest and least educated level of society had complete free access to him (s) and that there was not one iota of haughtiness in him, hence al-Bukhari placed this report in the chapter on kibr in the book of adab in his Sahih.

This is a prooftext for the leeway of at the very least a passive handshake for the da`i in the West – and Allah knows best.”

I heard from Suhayl al-Omani in Damascus this May 2002, from his teacher Shaykh `Isa al-Himyari of Dubai that when Shaykh `Isa was in Germany some years ago with Mawlana he witnessed a woman making her way to Mawlana and kissing his hand. Shaykh `Isa in his heart said: “This ought not to be, you are a respected Shaykh who should not breach the Shari`a.”

Shaykh `Isa said that Mawlana [Shaykh Nazim] turned to him and said: “I know what you said. Remind me to tell you about it later.” Later, Mawlana said to him that he did not use to allow this and that the Western ladies felt relegated to an inferior status. He then saw the Prophet (s) in a dream and the Prophet (s) gave him permission to let them kiss his hand”. [I add:] Hence the change in approach, as a dream is a strong point for the one who received the dream, and it is confirming a legal opinion for conditional exceptional circumstances (that is, the dream was not establishing shariah, merely pointing from the highest authority of Shariah to a possibility already considered inside Shariah).

In conclusion, as far as can be ascertained the position of Mawlana [Shaykh Nazim] in the matter is:

(1) `Umum al-balwa – the prevalence of general ignorance of Islam, necessitating complete availability of the transmitters of Islam to the public including in customary contacts such as handshake or handkissing;

(2) Da`wa in the West, whose unprecedented nature necessitates unprecedented measures, especially since in the West the avoidance of any physical contact with the opposite sex is regarded as insulting and demeaning, just as the avoidance of eye contact;

(3) Mawlana’s age”

[I add:

(4) Maulana’s ikhlas as a most solid internal barrier against misuse of it].

And finally, previous answer on eShaykh regarding kissing hands of a shaykh.

Taher Siddiqui

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Consuming placenta after childbirth

Question:

There’s a “trend” in US for women to save their placenta after childbirth and consume it as it apparently helps the uterus recover after birth, and helps reduce the stress of  menopause.  Is it permitted?

Answer:

Regarding the placenta the answer is indeed no, and the Sunnah is to bury it.

See also: “Is encapsulating the placenta for consumption halal“.

Hajj Gibril

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Fasting while sick

Question:

Salaamuayelaikum WRWB,

Bismillahir Rahman nir Raheem

Please advise as we have numerous different opinions on this matter. If somebody has been sick and it is obvious by looking at them that they are struggling with their fast, i.e. they are very pale, red eyes and have been sick numerous times, should they continue to fast, or have they broken their fast already by being sick? One of the new Muslims, this is her first Ramadan, she was very sick yesterday, she continued to fast under the advise that she had not broken her fast by being sick. I thought being sick breaks the fast and she will have to make up her fast. There are so many different opinions that, Alhamdolilah, I feel very grateful that I can ask you. We will follow your opinion and the opinion of our Shaykh inshAllah.

Answer:

A`udhu billahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajeem
Bismillahi ‘r-Rahmani ‘r-Raheem

Allah says in Qur’an which means:

“(Fasting) for a fixed number of days; but if any of you is ill, or on a journey, the prescribed number (Should be made up) from days later.” Al-Baqarah 2:184

Anyone who is sick or very ill may break the fast, but they must make it up before the next Ramadan comes.

Abdul Shakur

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Dream: Gathering of Shaayks

Question:

I dreamt that myself and a friend was at a gathering where Shaykh Hisham blessed my friend and put hand on her head. I was on the side lines, and felt very envious of my friend. At that point Shaykh Hisham did not seem pleased with me. Then I found myself at my dads old shop, with my dad and and daughter and gathering of people, and Shaykh Nazim smiled at me whilst sitting and put his hand on my head and my 12 year old daughters. I then asked what is going on, I got told it was the gathering of saints.

What does this mean?

Answer:

Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahrrm
Salamu alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuhu,

This dream is encouraging you to have sabr (patience). Through the virtue of your sabr, insha Allah your entire family (parents, children) will be brought into the blessings and closeness of the holy ones through the wasila of Mawlana Shaykh Hisham and Sultanul Awliya Mawlana Shaykh Nazim. You must try to counter act your envy through sabr in any matter of life.

Allah and His Messengers and His friends know the best.

Syed Shahzaman

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Men

Question:

Assalaamualiakoum,

I read a book about punishment for women in hell. Those that lie, cheat, wear unsuitable clothes, disobey husband and so on.

This book did not mention anything about men’s punishment in hell.

Do I take it that ALL men will go to paradise. Despite if they lie, cheat, disobey parents, ignore their wife and child, do not pray five times a day? Only Jummah is fard upon them?

Answer:

Wa Alaykum Salam,

There are many reasons (sins) why men and women may be thrown into Hellfire, but by Shafa’ah of Prophet s.a.w. Insha Allah we all will enter Paradise.

It is preferred you read books by our Shuyukh and practice their teachings. They are sure ways that shall lead you to Paradise, Insha Allah.

Abdul Shakur

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Women attending dhikr during menses

Question:

Asalaamuayelaikum brother,

Bismillahir Rahman nir Raheem

Please, could you advise us to the correct legal ruling, or if it is disputed then what ruling Mowlana would advise us to follow concerning:

Are women allowed to enter a mosque for dhikkr (not prayer) if they are on their period?

If the ruling is that women are allowed to enter, what would be the correct adab when the mosque says women can’t enter and it is the place where our Naqshbandi dhikr is held. I will respectfully follow Mowlana’s advice.

As always thank you for taking the time to read and reply to my questions, may Allah SWT reward you.

Kind regards

Answer:

It is not permissible for a menstruating woman to stay in the masjid to listen to dhikr or Qur’an recitation. She can stay in a place outside the masjid where she can listen to dhikr via loudspeakers.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Achieving confidence and removing envy

Question:

Assalam-o-alaikum dear Shuyukh and e-Shaykh team,

My question pertains to my current state; though I love my friends whenever I see or hear about their achievements it makes me sad because it reminds me of my shortcomings. It’s not like I want those blessings to be taken away from them. But it makes me sad because I have not achieved the same. My heart suffers with disease and this causes my confidence and will-power to dip to lowest levels every coming day.

Can you please let me what I can recite and practice to remove envy and increase my confidence and will power.

Salam

Answer:

Wa alaykum Salam,

Recite the du’a from this posting.

Abdul Shakur

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Jamak Prayer

Question:

May Allah always bless you in health and happiness.

I have friends asking me whether they can do jamak prayer although they’re not traveling because of their meetings or stuck in traffic to avoid missing prayer.

Well I told them, there’s always break time in between long meeting usually and as far as on traffic, I usually pray in car.

1) What’s the ruling on this case Sayyidi? Can we join our prayers to avoid missing them for a reason of meeting or stuck in traffic?

2) What’s the ruling in praying on the road? Do we need to face qiblah?

Syukran

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

Amin, may Allah bless you and your family also. This is a good and important question.

Based on certain conditions,

1. If one finds oneself at one time helplessly stuck in traffic and they fear the time is getting short, they can pray sitting in the direction of traffic and when they get home they can repeat that prayer properly. This is what Mawlana Shaykh Nazim (may Allah bless him and grant him long life) said that he did one time. If without wudu then make tayammum.

2. When one has reasonable fears that they will inevitably miss the Asr prayer, they may join it together with the Zuhr prayer at the time that they pray Zuhr, meaning beforehand.

However, the above scenarios are when people have no control of circumstances such as in a bus or train or plane, or when it is too dangerous to stop and pray.

Furthermore, it is a one-time occurrence, not a regular event repeating itself. But when people move daily in a city which they know is full of long delays due to traffic jams, then they have to plan accordingly and they must not make light of the prayer. Accordingly, when people do have control, such as:

– being in a private group where they are driving or they can ask the
driver to stop,
– and they are located in a Muslim city filled with musallas and
mosques,
– and they are moving through chronic traffic jams across prayer times
on a regular basis,
then there is simply no excuse for missing the prayer.

If one had to stop to pick up a gift of USD100 one would make sure to stop and pick it up, traffic or no traffic. One might dislike to momentarily stop because they might have certain engagements or meeting appointments, but again this is not an excuse to skip Salat or to pray similar to a musafir. Furthermore, even the musafir needs to pray standing and prostrating for a fard salat. This is even more the case for the non-musafir.

So let the worshipper remember that the debt one owes to Allah is more deserving of repayment, and that the first thing we will be audited for in the grave is Salat.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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