Marriage problems

Question:

I married at sheikh Nazim’s house. My husband asked me and Maulana for marrying about marrying me. He’s lot younger. We lived in my house in my country….Love, support, and respect to him increased. He returned often to his hometown, like he disappeared. Up to now he didn’t inform anyone there about our marriage. I feel unaccepted and unloved. This is his first marriage longer than one week. He never lived his own… Now after several months marriage he left our house without consulting me and went back to his hometown. After some days he asks me by mail to travel to MSN,# … that he’s a bad one, cannot be married, and he wants a divorce. Still, I love him, and want him back home. My teen-aged old daughter again is hurt. I need an advice about what to do now. I did my best as Allah swt knows the truth. Make dua for all of us.

Answer:

It is important to make Istikharah prayer or ask for advice from others, consult and consideration before marriage. If you want him back, you might face the same situation. We can not change other people but we can change ourselves and move on to a better life. Recite Ya Latif 129x after salat and Salawat Nooraniyya as much as possible. May Allah open your husband’s heart for you.

Hajjah Faridah

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Urinary incontinence

Question:

Salam alaykoum Shaykh,

It’ been 2 months now that I’m suffering from urinary incontinence. So every 10 minutes I need to urinate. Please shaykh, can you advise me a strong wazifa which will help me to cure my urinary incontinence, InshAllah.

Wa Salam alaykoum

Answer:

Wa `alaykum salam,

Check with your doctor about your symptoms. You may recite RabbunAllah HasbunAllah seven times daily or more.

Dr. Karim

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Dream: Hajja Rukiyah and Mawlana Sh. Nazim

Dream:

Asalam alaikum to all our blessed awliyah allah!

I see Hajja Rukiyah sitting on a bench, I run over to her crying . I kiss her hands she has a flowers in her hand to give me, & I take it. I tell her please pray that I can come back to you & Mawlana forever & telling her I am afraid she & Mawlana Shaykh Nazim have forgotten about me. she says no we haven’t, & that Mawlana is behind me. I see Mawlana up in the air being held by something & he is giving a sohbat, I am crying still & say, “Sayedii I miss you”I look in the sky, the name “Allah” in Arabic is written very big in the sky. I tell Hajja look! she says, this is because of you baraka I say astakfirulah Hajja Rukiyah, it is because of your baraka.

Interpretation:

Audhu billahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajim
Bismi-llāhi r-raḥmāni r-raḥīm:

Wa `alaykumu s-salāmu wa rahmatu l-lāhi wa barakātuh,

Masha Allah, it is a very good dream and a true dream showing your acceptance by Mawlana in his spiritual way due to your love, loyalty and respect for him and his family. The presence of Hajja Rukiyah in the dream means that you are like family to them.

And Allah knows best.

Wissam

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Dream: Snake

Dream:

My wife had a dream of a very very long snake. It was a long dream. We live in the UK but the dream was based in her mother’s house in [private]. The house is joined with her Aunty’s house and that is where the snake came from. During the dream, it wrapped itself around her and tried to bite her head but she held its face. Then the dream changed and the snake was leaving the house to go across the road to her sister’s house where our sons were playing. It was going there to attack them but she does not remember how the dream ended. This is not the first time she has had a dream of snakes. Also, what is the meaning of dreams where you are surrounded by dogs?

Interpretation:

Audhu billahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajim
Bismi-llāhi r-raḥmāni r-raḥīm:

The snake indicates jealousy, envy, and enmity. Alhamdulillah, there was no harm in the dream. Give daily sadaqa and recite HasbunAllahu wa ni’am al-wakeel 100 times daily for protection. And Allah knows best.

Dr. Karim

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Prayer Request: For E-Maan & Rahmath in life

Request:

Assalaamu Alaiqum Wa Rahmathullah!

I request Moulana to pray for me, about me studies, career (I love to work for mu’min and Ummah of Rasool. I am doing MBA in Aviation & my wish is to get job in KSA Airport). And please pray for my marriage…I’d Love very much to marry. May Allah (SWT) assemble us in His Jannah

Response:

Audhu billahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajim
Bismi-llāhi r-raḥmāni r-raḥīm:

Wa `alaykumu s-salāmu wa rahmatu l-lāhi wa barakātuh,

Insha Allah Mawlana Shaykh Hisham Kabbani is praying for you.
And Allah knows best.

Wissam

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Dream: Tasbih Taken

Dream:

I dreamed I was in a room with a lot of other people. I was standing and making dhikr. Someone came up behind me and took the tasbih out of my hand. My first thought was that it was my wife, but when I turned and looked, it was a small, dark-haired man with no beard wearing a white thobe and a black jubba.

Interpretation:

Audhu billahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajim
Bismi-llāhi r-raḥmāni r-raḥīm
:

This dream could mean that you are going to benefit and help someone
before they pass away.

And Allah (awj) knows best.

Yassir Chadly

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Dream: Spider in hell

Dream:

Assalaam ‘alaykum dear Mashaykh.

I had a dream in which i said to myself or heard someone saying that there are spiders also in Hell. OR there can be spiders in Hell. I am someone who is afraid of spiders. Does this dream has any connection with my fear?

Jazaakumullah dear respected Mashaykh.

Interpretation:

Audhu billahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajim
Bismi-llāhi r-raḥmāni r-raḥīm:

Wa `alaykum salam,

29:41 The parable of those who take protectors other than Allah is that of the spider, who builds (to itself) a house; but truly the flimsiest of houses is the spider’s house; if they but knew.

The strongest support is from Allah and His Messenger. Those relying on their egos are in danger of falling into difficulties. And Allah knows best.

Dr. Karim

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Burqa and Niqab

Question:

Assalamualaykum,

I became intrigued about the history of when women started wearing the burqa or niqab, and why does it bother people so much that women wear it? Did the Prophet Mohammad(saw) wives wear it straight away when they married him?

If the woman’s husband didn’t want her to wear the niqab or burqa, would she just need to obey and wear the head-scarf? We get brought up to be comfortable with what we wear. So is there any specific way we wear our clothes nicely? Like the top, it can be loose or tight? And to wear the skirts that are long.

May Allah bless you and shukriya for your time to read this message.

Answer:

`Alaykum Salam and thank you so much for your question. It is surprising to many people that there is no requirement (or encouragement) in Islamic law to wear the niqab or burka. There are a few verses in the Holy Qur’an that are most important in the discussion of modesty and clothing requirements. I will discuss three of the verses below, and also try and answer some of your questions inshallah.

First Verse: “Tell believing men to restrain their glances and guard their private parts. This is more pure for them. Indeed God is informed of whatever they contrive. And tell believing women to restrain their glances and guard their private parts, and not to expose their charm (zinat) except what is apparent of it, and to draw their shawls (khumur) over their bosoms (juyub), and not to expose their charm (zinat) except (in the presence of) their husbands, or their fathers, or their husbands’ fathers, or their sons, or their husbands’ sons, or their brothers, or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their women, or those under their lawful trust, or the male attendants not having any (sexual) desire, or children not yet conscious of women’s sexuality; nor let them strike their feet so as to make known what they hide of their charm (zinat). And turn to God together, you believers, that you may succeed” (24:30-31).

In this verse, the important words are juyub, khumur, and zinat. Authoritative Arabic dictionaries like Lisan al-‘Arab tell us that khimar (singular of khumur) is a piece of cloth worn on the head by men or women such as a turban. Jayb (singular of juyub) is the chest, or the area where the neck and chest meet, or the top of a woman’s cleavage. Women in pre-Islamic Arabia traditionally let the khimar hang down their back and kept their head and chest bare, which is why many scholars say the Qur’an particularly stresses covering the chest with the khimar. The word zinat is often used in the Qur’an to mean the gifts of God that are tempting to humans (2:212, 3:14, 18:46, 7:32), in this case sexual charms. In this verse, women are asked to dress and act modestly, in the context of the prevailing custom. The verse also asks believing men to lower their gazes. Had the women’s faces been fully covered, the command to men to lower their gaze would have made no sense.

The phrase “except what is apparent of it” was understood in several ways. Ibn Abbas (ra) understood it as the hand, the ring, and the face, Abdullah Ibn Omar Ibn Al-Khattab (ra) as “the face and hands”, and Anas Ibn Malik (ra) as the hand and the ring. Some scholars said that a woman can show only her face, some said she can show her face and hands, some said the face, hands and feet, and some that the lower part of the arm may also be shown. An early scholar, al-Qiffal, interpreted this phrase as meaning ‘that which a human being may show in accordance with prevailing custom,’ so that what a woman may show of her body in public changes according to the custom of the land she is living in (that is, she dresses modestly in the context of the place she is living in).

For example, wearing a hijab in Egypt or a dupatta in Pakistan is a sign of modesty, and fits the clothing style of each country. In Europe or America, wearing a loose long shirt or tunic and loose pants or long skirt is a sign of modesty and fits the clothing style of the area. The best thing is to dress modestly in a way that blends in with the style of the place where you live, that looks clean and neat and attractive and pleasant, and that does not attract too much attention.

Second Verse: “O Prophet! say to your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers that they let down upon them their over-garments (jalabib); this will be more proper, that they may be recognized, and thus they will not be given trouble; and God is Forgiving, Merciful.”(33:59)

The second verse asks women to lower their jilbab (singular of jalabib) or to draw it closer to their bodies. The word jilbab means a stitched garment, and not a veil. Most scholars interpreted this verse to mean that women should cover the entire body except the face, hands and feet. Some said that the verse only asks women to cover the legs or chest. This verse was revealed to protect against a group of young ruffians in Medina who harassed women at night.

Third Verse: “O you who believe! Do not enter the houses of the Prophet unless permission is given to you for a meal, (and then) not (so early as) to wait for its preparation– but when you are invited, enter, and when you have taken the food, disperse. Linger not for conversation; surely this gives the Prophet trouble, and he is shy of (asking) you (to go), but God is not shy of (telling you) the truth. And when you ask of them (the Prophet’s wives) anything, ask of them from behind a curtain; this is purer for your hearts and (for) their hearts; and it does not behoove you that you should give trouble to the Messenger of God, nor that you should marry his wives after him ever; surely this is grievous in the sight of God.” (33:53)

In the third verse, the word that is used for curtain is hijab. The verse was revealed to the Prophet (saws) on the evening of his marriage to Bibi Zainab (ra), when several guests stayed on too long and didn’t let the Prophet (saws) be alone with his new wife. After the Prophet (saws) tried to hint to them to leave, this verse was revealed, and the Prophet drew a curtain between himself (and his wife) and the guests. While this verse deals primarily with issues of politeness and privacy, most scholars deduced that this verse made it obligatory for the wives of the Prophet (saws) to cover their faces. They also agreed, however, that this does not make it obligatory on all women.  Earlier in the same chapter, it is stated that the wives of the Prophet (saws) are not similar to other women. They belong to a special category and accordingly, in many cases, different rules apply to them.

O Wives of the Prophet! You are not like any of the other women (33:32)

As we can see, the Qur’an does not command women to cover their faces. The law does not wish to create hardship where there is no need for hardship, and covering the face is a hardship. A hadith in Sahih Bukhari, narrated by Bibi Ayesha (ra), reports the Prophet (saws) as saying:

Why do people impose conditions which are not in Allah’s book? Whoever imposes conditions that are not in Allah’s Laws, then that condition is invalid even if he imposes one hundred such conditions, for Allah’s conditions (as stated in the Qur’an) are truth and more valid.

To come back to your second question, in the case of a husband not wishing a wife to wear the niqab: because the niqab is not a requirement or even considered favorable for a Muslim woman, the husband is not asking the wife to do anything un-Islamic. Therefore, in this particular case, it is better for marital happiness to wear a head-scarf instead.

In the end, we should all remember that it is not the clothes we wear that make us a good Muslim. As we read in the Holy Qur’an:

“Children of Adam! We have sent you clothing to cover your nakedness, and for beauty, but the garment of God-consciousness (taqwa) is best. This is among the signs of God, that they may be mindful”(7:26).

And Allah knows best.

Dr. Homayra

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Dream: Number 90

Dream:

Salam,

I’m a talib of Shaikh Nazim and murshid of Maulana Ilyas Qadri. I’m seeing I’m in class teacher and I’m reading poem there it is written “this is the time of 90 “teacher keep on saying to read this. Please interpret.

Interpretation:

wa `alaykum salam,

I think you mean to say you are a murid of Shaykh Ilyas Qadri and that is good fortune.

The dream refers to Surat al-Balad, The City, in which the Prophet (s) was born and raised and received Wahiy. It means prepare for the ennobling of Mecca al-Mukarrama in a new and special way that is coming soon, in the Last Days, and that is the appearance of  al-Mahdi (as), and Allah knows best.

Taher Siddiqui

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Mawlid

Question:

Asalamualaikum,

As far as I know the Mawlid al Nabi (salah Allah aleyhi wa salam), as we recognize today, was introduced by Emir Nur al Din al Zengi in the late 12th century, or by Muzzaffar of Irbil in early 13th century AD. I do not know anything though about what was done on 12th Rabi-al-Awwal before this period. Could you please give me some information about what Muslims in the 12th, 11th, 10th, 9th centuries? I ask this specifically because there seems to be a gap in information about the period between the end of the Salaf and the time of Zengi and Muzaffar. Thank you very much for answering my question.

Answer:

Wa `alaykum as-Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

It is important to recall that the historical period to which you refer – that of the great Amir Nuruddin Zangi – was marked by systemization or methodization, which is not to be confused with innovation. For example, chivalry had long been practiced, but during this period the methods of futuwwah became clearly established, with chivalric flowerings springing up in East and West, and among the highest and lowest ranks in society. This development – literally an “unfolding” of possibilities belonging to Islam – may be compared to the development of the Mawlid festival.

Given that the specialness of the 12th of Rabi`al-awwal was spiritually recognized in Islam from the beginning, it seems that before the methodization of the festival, this anniversary was marked by gatherings at the house where the Holy Prophet – peace and blessings be upon him – was born. Of course, such a visitation was only possible for a pious few, so that the establishment of the festival’s observance in locations other than Mecca served to extend blessings to many more lovers of the Beloved. Only the spiritually stingy would deny the wisdoms in this development, or fail to be refreshed by the beautiful flowerings of love belonging to this festival. Of course, while evil-doers might obscure or even destroy certain historical traces of the Beloved of Allah – may peace and blessings be upon him – the beauty that has its source in him is never-ending. Our duty is to cultivate it wherever it is found.

Mahmoud

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