Prayer Request: Despondent and reconciliation

Posted on November 26, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Request:

Salam alaikum warahmatullah all Masha-iekh.

Jazakallah for responding to my question. I’ve been doing the ath-kaar Shaykh Gibreel Haddad has advised and 8th Thul-Hijjah/24 Oct marks day 14. I feel despondent as a week ago my ex-husband sent a message that we move on without him. Baby is only 8 months old. Please, I request dua that he relents and comes to his senses inshaAllah and that I’m strong enough to persevere as it feels I should give up with the negativity coming from his end and excuses why it wouldn’t work to reconcile, although I firmly believe there are ways to remedy the relationship and would be best to reconcile inshaAllah, please?

Jazakallah.

Response:

Alaykum Salam,

Mawlana Shaykh Hisham is praying for you in sha Allah.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Salatul Mashishiyya

Posted on November 26, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

Asalamu Alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatu.

Is this salawat authentically from ibn Mashish rh, and may one just recite it or does it need permission?

JazakumAllahu Khayran.

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

Yes it is narrated from him with its chain of transmission and there is agreement as to its attribution to him. All salawats can be recited without permission but you will not understand it without a master teaching you its meanings.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Prayer Request: My Brother is mentally ill

Posted on November 26, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Request:

Assaalamalaikum,

My brother has been very ill a mentally and it has been almost 4 or 5 years that we have been making efforts to rid the problem. Please I need special prayer for him.

I also wanted to know if there are verses in the Holy Qur’an that one could could continuously recite on his behalf or recite inside water and give him to drink of bath it.

May almighty Allah continue to bless you, Ameen.

Response:

Alaykum Salam,

Feed the poor on his behalf and give sadaqa daily even small. Read over water 40 Fatiha and/or the 6 verses of shifa. Mawlana Shaykh Hisham is praying for you and your brother.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Facebook Users

Posted on November 26, 2012 by Eshaykh Staff

Question:

Assalam aleikum,

I have been told that our beloved maulana shaykh Nazim (may Allah give him long life) has asked us not to use facebook. Is this true & if so why isn’t anyone listening?

Thank you so much for your time & excellent works.
Wa salam

Answer:

Wa Alaykum Salam,

Please read here.

Staff

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Rejecting Qurbani Meat by Muslim

Posted on November 26, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

Salam Alaikum,

Recently on Id-Ul Zuha one muslim family has refused to accept Qurbani meat. Our intentions were pure. Please advise whether is this a bad sign for him or for us. Can a Muslim rejects Qurbani meat without fear in his heart? Please advise.

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

It is rude and shocking but try to find excuses for them other than the worst-case scenario. Your sadaqa is recorded for you without worry in sha Allah.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Prayer Request: I need dua

Posted on November 26, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Request:

Assalamu Allaikum,

I’m 3_ years old, unmarried and there is no one to look for me a marriage. Now I’m interested in guy,who I was chatting with, I never went out with him. I want to get married to him. I have nothing in my life, always there is problem and break ups in whatever I seek. Nothing is stable in my life. Now he is not talking to me and I’m not sure if his family would agree for this, if he marry me. Beside my mother’s family some has been constantly worry me from having from education to marriage. Please help me to get through this and marrying him soon. At the beginning he was true to me and now he seems out of my hand, but I can’t give my heart for another.

Response:

Alaykum Salam,

Recite after every salat Ya Razzaq, Ya Fattah x100 to your intention or in every 24 hours 5 times.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Prayer Request: Injustice &Husband

Posted on November 26, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Request:

Assalamwalaikum Beloved sheikh,

I am going through allot of mental pain, anxiety & depression due to my husband. My marriage is cursed & I think it is because I got married during Muharram…as I had no knowledge. Long story short, my husband’s parents died. He is young & he lives with teenage siblings in small apt. I can’t live there because I did for one year& it didn’t work out. His family is very demanding & cunning and don’t like me, it seems they want us to break up all them time & no spouse privacy there. I now live with parents for the past two years.He visits me once a week and he doesn’t like to visit me like this & says I should live with him under any circumstance. I feel torture without him. All I want is for him to do justice with me. As I feel he doesn’t love/respect me. Please provide me a dua.

Response:

Alaykum Salam,

Recite Ya Jabbar, Ya Kafi daily x100-1000. In sha Allah He will send a solution to restore your rights.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Would Allah (swt) still punish me?

Posted on November 26, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

I am deeply upset. I have been running after the Awliya Allah all of my life, but everywhere I go it is exactly the same. I now want to leave this tariqa. One issue in my life has been stuck and continues to remain stuck. Despite all the invocations MSH gave me to recite, the ‘halaal‘ door is still closed and has been closed for twenty years. I am now in my late 30s, weak and loosing my iman. I have to make a choice, I cannot stay where I am. If I walked through that ‘haraam‘ door would Allah (swt) still punish me?

Answer:

Allah said not to despair and not to be sad. Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) said not to say I pray and pray yet I get no answer. Read Qur’an 3:125 and 3:140.

Each haram we commit blots the heart until it becomes completely dark then Allah might seal it (He is our refuge from that!). It may be the halal door is wide open but we are making it so narrow ourselves.

Do not walk out but rather persevere with the company of the righteous. Otherwise you are only punishing yourself.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Deen and dunya opposites

Posted on November 26, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

Assalamu alaikum,

I have been in tariqah for a while. The message I get from every sohba is to submit, be patient, and to give fragrance to the hand that crushes me. I have tried to do this in every aspect of my life. People at my work behave unjustly, a certain family member may take advantage of my kindness, my husband takes me for granted, etc. I feel I am getting crushed by those closest to me; being soft only makes it happen more. People think they can walk all over me when i am patient. Is it really possible to follow tariqah advice and not get smashed by dunya? How can I continue to follow this advice? I feel like it is bringing despair. Am I following the advice incorrectly? How does one balance tariqah teachings with dunya challenges?

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

Put your foot down but without anger in your heart. Do not take on more than you can bear with. Allah loves those with patient endurance so we can be sure that the price is heavy!

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Older women

Posted on November 25, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

There are many older women now in the tariqa. From what I am seeing when an older brother comes to the shaykh he is directed to marry a younger sister, not an older sister, or one equal in age. Please can you advise on this? What should the older women do to get married?

Answer:

An older brother is usually advised to marry someone his age or younger, but not radically younger from what I have observed over the years. True, it may be more difficult to find a suitable match for older brothers and sisters.

My advice would be to let your interest in a possible match be known to them directly, either through writing or other communication or through an intermediary. This way you can make up for the disadvantage of age through candor and simplicity and this was the way of the early Muslims.

When a basic agreement has been reached then you can approach Mawlana for approval.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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