Wife demanding a divorce

Posted on October 1, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

My wife is in [private], I live in [private]. We are married for 1 year only. She stayed with me for only 7 days due to visa and we have consumed our marriage in Jeddah. This is a long distance marriage. We have involved our selves in numerous arguments and my wife is asking me to divorce her. Ever since we got married we are fighting. But I do not want to divorce her and she demanded divorce in May 2012 verbally. Till then we are not in touch. I do not want to end this marriage but she not want to stay with me and my family in Jeddah. Please advise if I shall proceed for divorce or shall I ask her to proceed with khula even though I do not want to end this marriage.

Answer:

Give reconciliation your best shot but if no result then give her her
request and move on because it is not right to perpetuate an unlivable
situation for both of you.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Suitable Gems and Stones

Posted on October 1, 2012 by Eshaykh Staff

Question:

A/kum, Dear Sir,
My name is [private]. My date of Birth is [private] Bareilly (UP) India. I am looking for my self a stone which can help me to improve my personality, social and financial status. I am still unmarried.

Massalam
Jazak Allah

Answer:

wa `alaykum salam,
Please read here about wearing stones.

Staff

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Problems when outside

Posted on October 1, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

Assalmualikum wa rah matulla,
Ya sheikh, I have a problem whenever I go outside. I’m trying to follow to sunnah by keeping a beard but I hate it when people keep staring at me. I have no problem with keeping a beard but I get angry very easily And it’s bad for me I can feel it. But I can’t really help it. I am a real shy person and have very little confidence because I was brought up in such a way that made me like this. Not saying it’s bad but it’s hard in this place and it’s really bothering me and getting in my way. I’ve been going on like this for very long but I’ll never cut my beard (I used to). Is there anything I can do that will really help me with this problem? JazakAllah.

Answer:

`Alaykum Salam,
Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) said I was sent to complete good character and he commanded a man several times ‘Do not get angry’ so it is much more important than keeping a beard. If the latter pressures you then keep a goatee or less. Do not make it an issue that supercedes character, on the contrary character is everything.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Surah Asr

Posted on October 1, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

I have been struggling to find a marriage partner for many years. I’m a female in my mid-30’s. One night I was very sad, and had done some ibaadah. When I woke up from sleeping, Surah Asr was on my mind, like I was reminded of Surah Asr as if there was some message for me in it. Please indicate if it means something. I have tried so much, but can’t get married. JAK. Sister.

Answer:

Insha`Allah, Allah will send you someone with iman, patience and truthfulness soon.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Beard Problem

Posted on October 1, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

Asalamu alaykum Sayiddi,

Sayiddi, the hair on the left side of my face are so scarce that In case I grow a beard, it would look abnormal. Kindly, guide me on what I should do to grow facial hair. I feel very guilty when I shave.

Aslamau alaykum Sayiddi.

Answer:

`Alaykum Salam,

It is enough to grow the beard on the chin and jawbones, excluding the cheeks, or grow it just on the chin.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Prayer Request: Istikhara for my marriage

Posted on October 1, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Request:

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullah,

Hope you are in a sound state of Iman & Health.
I want to request an istikhara for my marriage. My name is [private] and I am 25 years old. My date of birth is [private]. My mothers name is [private] and my father’s name is [private]. The Girl’s name is [private] and she is 21 years old. Her date of birth is [private]. Her mother’s name is [private]and her father’s name is [private] .

Jazakallahu khairan wa ahsan al jaza,
Was-salaamualaikum.

Response:

`Alaykum Salam,
An excellent match, trust in Allah and go ahead.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Nightmares & Illness
Nightmares & Illness

Posted on October 1, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

Salamualaikum,
I am very sick with liver cancer and hepatitis b. Doctors have given up on me but I have because only Allah has the power to do that. I keep have some tormenting nightmares, on the of them is a little girl that I know who placed her hand on my stomach to was very painful and I started praying but she kept putting pressure on my stomach until I said the Kalimantun… hahaha and I woke up screaming the Kalimantun shahada.

Answer:

`Alaykum Salam,
Angels are supporting you with tawhid, asking forgiveness for you, and leaving you as pure as an innocent child. Don’t worry and don’t be sad. May Allah give you recovery and excellent dreams.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Nightmares & Illness

Alone with brother-in-law in the house
Alone with brother-in-law in the house

Posted on October 1, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

Salam,
I moved to a new house and sometimes my brother-in-law will like to come and sleepover. I’m OK with it but the problem is my husband will go to work the next day and I will be alone with him at home. Is this allowed? I know it is not allowed for me to be alone with him in my house as he is not my mahram. Also, he wanted to come a few weeks back but I told my husband that it is not right as husband is going to work. My husband got angry and started accusing me things about treating his family like crap. How do I tell my in-laws and husband that it is not right for my BIL to come to my house if there is no one around without offending them or my husband?

Answer:

`Alaykum Salam,
Google “brother in law is death” and let them know their religion.
Meanwhile cover when alone with the brother. By blaming you for simply mentioning the truth, your husband has taken on the burden of that sin in full.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Alone with brother-in-law in the house

Guidance regarding marriage partner

Posted on October 1, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Question:

AA Mawlana Hishaam. I would like to know if this woman is suitable for marriage. I have known her for 2 months. Her family have accepted me yet I am unsure, because on occasions she has anger and I also had a dream in which she swore at our beloved Shaykh and I told her off in the dream. However she insisted (Astagfiruallah) that Mawlana was such and such in her dream and then the dream ended. Do I take this as a sign or is it the shaitan interfering. Please help.

Answer:

Ignore the dream as it is interference. Continue and trust in Allah.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Dream: Istikhara and Kunfayakun

Posted on October 1, 2012 by Shaykh Gibril Fouad Haddad

Dream:

ASAK. I love a guy since 6 years. My parents agreed for our nikkah, but not his parents. So he dumped me. But he was still in my heart. Did istikhara to seek counsel from Allah(swt), if he is the right person for me and should I wait for him to get back to me. In dream I saw a crack on the ground which leads from his house to my house. I hear people screaming on the roads that a giant cockroach has come out of the crack and is entering my house. I immediately rushed towards the entrance and closed the door. I performed kun-fayakun nafeel namaz while asking dua to get me married to him. An ugly cockroach jumped on my feet and tried to go between my legs. I panicked and stood at once and started dusting myself to get rid of that insect.This had really frightened me a lot. Please suggest me how to proceed. Awaiting your reply. Allah Hafiz.

Interpretation:

Istikhara is negative. Cockroach means small sin that became big, so take your precautions and you will be safe. Try to move on and Allah will send someone who is right for you in sha Allah. But 6 months is best to decide for marriage, not longer.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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