Istikhara marriage

Question:

Dream 1- my fiancée would eventually leave me, but this was very vague. Dream 2- I married my cousin but I was so upset and wanted to be with my fiancee. Following events- prayed for a job so I could get married and got one with my fiance bringing us closer.

Answer:

Your state is undecisive. Surrender to Allah with trust and love. Do your religious duties without fear or anger. In sha Allah goodness will come your way here and hereafter.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Becoming Hopless regarding Marriage.

Prayer Request:

Please,make dua for me & tell me duas to pray. I am 3_ unmarried girl. It’s getting hard for me to remain single, I want to get married asap. No prospect rhistas came so far. I  have male energy more then female, I feel like I’m in dark, I need light. Plz help.

Answer:

Mawlana Shaykh Hisham is praying for you. Look up Salat al Najat on
eshaykh.com and try to follow that.

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Istikhara request

Prayer Request:

Hi I would like to do istikhara for my self. My name is [private]. I’m going to getting married with [private]. It’s a love marriage. Can you tell me please is it positive or negative result for us. Thanks.

Answer:

In sha Allah it is a good match. Keep salat, give thanks and give salam.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Can’t be intimate with wife

Question:

Due to surgery my wife private part has become very short. It is very painful for her to be intimate. She is very old fashion would not masturbate me. Is ok if I masturbate myself. If I don’t relieve myself I become very irritated and frustrated. Commit sin.

Answer:

You can educate your wife as this is also part of intimacy between spouses even if it may take time. When she gets better you can resume normally. Meantime you are responsible to control your anger.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Ibn Arabi, Hallaj, etc…

Question:

Asalamu ‘alaikum.
Could you please share the “judgement” of Sunni scholars such as al-Dhahabi, Ibn Hajar, Ibn ‘Abd al-Salam, Ibn Kathir on Sufi beliefs of people like Ibn Arabi, al Hallaj and those “sufis” today who accept and propagate their hérésies?

Answer:

Alaykum al-Salam,

Imam Nawawi (rahimahullah) was asked about Ibn `Arabi (rahimahullah) and he was closer to him both geographically and historically than the four you mentioned. His only reply was:

تِلْكَ أُمَّةٌ قَدْ خَلَتْ لَهَا مَا كَسَبَتْ وَلَكُم مَّا كَسَبْتُمْ وَلاَ تُسْأَلُونَ عَمَّا كَانُوا يَعْمَلُونَ

Those are a people who have passed away. Theirs is that which they earned, and yours is that which you earn. And you will not be asked of what they used to do. (Surat al-Baqara, 2:134)

Al-Dhahabi warned in al-Muqiza:

Animosity against Sufis is a plunge from which none escapes unscathed except one thoroughly knowledgeable with all the evidentiary proofs of the Law. Note that I do not limit such knowledge to the branches [of the Law]. For, concerning many of the states described by those on the right (al-muhiqqin) among the Sufis, right cannot be told from wrong on the mere basis of knowledge of the branches. One must also possess firm knowledge of the foundations of the Law and be able to tell apart the obligatory from the possible, as well as the rationally impossible from the customarily impossible. It is, indeed, a position fraught with danger!

Al-Suyuti wrote:

The Scholars past and present have differed concerning Ibn `Arabi, one group considering him a friend of Allah (wali) — and they are correct — such as Ibn `Ata’ Allah al-Sakandari and `Afif al-Din al-Yafi`i, another considering him a heretic — such as a large number of the Jurists — while others expressed doubts concerning him, among them al-Dhahabi in al-Mizan. Two opposed verdicts are reported from Shaykh `Izz al-Din Ibn `Abd al-Salam, one attacking him, and one describing him as the Spiritual Pole (al-Qutb). What reconciles them is indicated by Shaykh Taj al-Din Ibn `Ata’ Allah in Lata’if al-Minan, namely, that Shaykh `Izz al-Din at the beginning acted in the fashion of jurists in passing quick judgment on the Sufis. When Shaykh Abu al-Hasan al-Shadhili went to pilgrimage and returned, he came to Shaykh `Izz al-Din before entering his own house and conveyed to him the salam of the Prophet (s). After that, Shaykh `Izz al-Din humbled himself and began to sit in al-Shadhili’s gatherings…. Our teacher, Shaykh al-Islam, the last remnant of the mujtahids, Sharaf al-Din al-Munawi replied, concerning Ibn `Arabi, that silence was safest. And this is the stance that befits every truly Godwary person who fears for himself. For my part, the last word concerning Ibn `Arabi — and this is accepted neither by his contemporary admirers nor by his detractors — is that he be considered a wali but reading his books is forbidden. He himself is related as saying, “We [Sufis] are a people whose books are forbidden to read.” This is because the Sufis, by convention, use a technical terminology known only to them and by which they refer to meanings in a way different from common usage. Therefore, whoever takes their language according to its outward meanings, both commits kufr and charges others with kufr (kafara wa-kaffara). Al-Ghazali stipulated something similar in one of his books and said, “It [the discourse of Sufis] is somewhat the same as with the ambiguities of the Qur’an and the Sunna. Whoever understands them literally commits apostasy and its actual meaning is other than what is commonly known. So, in the cases of the verses dealing with the Divine Face, Hands, Eye, Establishment over the Throne, etc.: whoever understands them according to commonly known meanings has definitely committed apostasy.” (Al-Suyuti, Tanbih al-Ghabi fi Tanzih Ibn `Arabi [Warning Imbeciles About the Innocence of Ibn `Arabi], p. 17-21).

As for al-Hallaj (rahimahullah), once again the earlier ulema consider him one of the Friends (awliya) of Allah, such as Ibn Khafif who visited him in jail in the year 300 and described al-Hallaj as “a true monotheist (muwahhid) and godly knower (`alim rabbani);” Abu al-Qasim al-Nasrabadhi, al-Qushayri, Ibn `Ata’ Allah, Ibn al-Hajj al-`Abdari, Ibn `Aqil (who wrote Juz’ fi Nasr Karamat al-Hallaj “Opuscule in Praise of al-Hallaj’s Miraculous Gifts), Ibn Qudama, al-Tufi, Ibn al-Mulaqqin, al-Munawi, al-Sha`rani, etc. Among his sayings: “Take care of your ego; if you do not make it busy, it shall make you busy.”

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Hadith

Question:

AOA please confirm this:
Prophet S.A.W said, “The life span of my ummah will not extend beyond 1500 years.”
Suyuti, Al Kashf’an Mujawazaat Hadhihi al-ummah al-‘alf al-hawee li’l-fatawi’, 2/248, (Arabic) 4/262; Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal, Kitaab al-‘llal, pg

Answer:

Alaykum salam,

See here and here.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Is it a jinn what’s suffocating me

Question:

Assalamualaikum. Please help me. I said about my room to you before also. When I sleep there I get a dream where my body is numb and I cant speak. Yesterday same thing happened. I was reciting Ayat al-Kursi,  but cant blow on him. He was sitting on my chest. Please reply soon. I don’t know what’s happening. When I sleep especially on my bed alone I wake up choked. When some one is there I’m fine and some one else sleeping in that place is also fine. I’ve read Surah Baqarah too.

Answer:

Dear Sister,

wa `alaykum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Regarding what is bothering you in your room, read here.

Please continue to follow the advice Shaykh Gibril gave to you from one of Mawlana Shaykh Muhammad Hisham Kabbani’s recent suhbats.

Additionally, you may follow Hajjah Naziha’s advice in the Post “Dream: Suffocation“.

Most importantly, take baya, in-sha-Allah!

Staff

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Prayer for suitable marriage proposal

Prayer Request:

Assalamu Alykum
It is my kind request to Sheikh Hisham to pray for me and and suggest me a powerful tested wazeefa to get marry to a suitable partner soon. I’m in late 20s and really wanted to settle down now.  JazakaAllah

Answer:

wa `alaykum salam,

Keep following Mawlana Shaykh Hisham’s advice given here in-sha-Allah.

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indecent thoughts and envies

Question:

In the past, ive committed many indecent acts privately and publicly which im ashamed of now. Ive repented and cried so many times but evil and indecent thoughts comes to my mind,also wen I see a beautiful lady, i try to lower my gaze but still im aroused

Answer:

Please see the Post “Evil thoughts out of control“.

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Permission

Question:

Assalam alaikum

I love someone very much and want to marry him. But he loved me to but now he is really cold to me and I want permission to recite hazrat dawud dua to bring my love back and marry him.

Answer:

wa `alaykum salam,

General permission has been granted to recite this dua.

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