About a wedding incident pertaining to Aisha

Question:

Assalamalaikum. Is the following incident found in Lesley Hazelton’s book “After the Prophet” authentic or a forgery? It is as follows, “as when Muhammad arranged to seal an alliance with a major Christian tribe newly converted to Islam by marrying its leader’s daughter, a girl renowned for her beauty. When the bride-to-be arrived in Medina, Aisha volunteered to help prepare her for the wedding and, under the guise of sisterly advice, advised her that Muhammad would think all the more highly of her if on the wedding night, she resisted him by saying, “I take refuge with God from thee.” The new bride had no idea that this was the Islamic phrase used to annul a marriage. All she knew was that the moment she said it, Muhammad left, and the next day she was bundled unceremoniously back to her own people.”

Thank you.

Answer:

Alaykum Salam,

It is narrated by al-Bukhari except that the phrase does not annul a marriage at all. Rather, it was an expression of distaste and rejection with which the Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) dealt by annulling the marriage. Nor is true that she was “bundled unceremoniously” at all, rather she was given a generous parting gift and treated with the utmost respect even though she had disrespected the Best of Creation. The moral of the story is that your source is unreliable and makes up facts, and this is the case in a lot of what she publishes.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Prayer Request: Dua for Stomach problem

Request:

Assalaam alaikum Dear Shaikh,

Allahumma salle ala syedina Muhammadin wa aala alaehi wa sahabihi wa barik wasslim.

I am suffering from loose motions and stomach upset from more than 3 months now. I tried various doctors and they say that I may have irritable bowel syndrome. I feel pain in stomach daily. I am not able to eat like before and have to avoid milk. Please pray for me that I become normal as before. I am loosing hope. Please I am begging for help

Yours sincerely

Response:

Wa `alaykum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

InshaAllah, with Mawlana’s prayers you will feel better. You will learn to change your diet to adapt to eating the foods that you can tolerate and will start enjoying them. Also, try taking lactaid, and see if you can tolerate some milk products then.

May Allah make it easy for you,
Tasneem

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Marriage Perposal

Question:

Aslam o Alaikum Sir,
I was damnly worried about my love life. I visited your website and read your permission about Hazrat Dawood’s prayer. 30 days ago i started that wazifa and he fall in love with me a bit. I am very thankful to you. I will complete my wazifa inshaallah. But I want he send his parents to my home for marriage proposal so I can come in halal relationship with him. Please help me.
Jzak Allah

Answer:

Wa `alaykum salam,

See Mawlana Shaykh Hisham Kabbani’s advice here.

Staff

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Istikhara before taking bayah?

Question:

Asalaamualaikum Shaykh Saab, do I have to perform istikhara before taking bayah. My local Ustaad told me to perform istikhara before bayah as not every Shaykh contains the rizk provision of everyone. Therefore I have been told I have to take the bayah of a Shaykh whom contains my rizk and I have been told the only way I can find out which Shaykh will provide for me is through istikhara.

Answer:

Wa `alaykum salam,

Please refer to the following posts:

The meaning of the answer I got in Istikhara about Tareeqa
Find the Right Sheikh!

Staff

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Masterbation 2/3 times a day 15 yr old

Question:

Salaam, shaykh I am 15 yrs old and masturbate 2/3 times every day. I also don’t tend to be in the state of ghusl very often and I want to pray and perform ibadah but in certain situations I am unable to do. I want to stop all this and become a dedicated worshiper. Also I understand the fiqh involved in masturbation etc as I’m a student of the deen but this act keeps me from fulfilling my studies. Is there a dua or anything that could help me stopping. I am too embarrassed to ask my teacher on this topic although we have been through it more personal advice is needed jazakallah :)

Answer:

Wa `alaykum salam,

Please see Shaykh Senad’s answer in the Post “Sexual Thoughts“.

Staff

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Blood Donation vs Wet Cupping, and…

Question:

Would donating blood have a similar effect to wet cupping? And I am not sure what the process is called, but when you recite chapter 112, and then blow into your cupped hands, followed by chapters 113, and 114, what are the spiritual, physical and possibly on a auraic level benefits it this?

Answer:

Audhubillahiminashaytanirajeem
BismillahirRahmanirRahim

Allah knows best about blood donation vs. Hijama (cupping). There are medical benefits to both, but Hijama has the spiritual benefits of reviving the Sunnah and all of the blessings of healing that come with it which a specialist/practitioner can describe further.

Recitation of the 3 surahs have countless benefits.

Benefits include protection from evil, illness, envy. According to Awliya, every letter of Quran carries 12-24,000 oceans of knowledge from Allah’s Holy Speech which will be dressed upon one’s body and soul. For more details on power of Surah Falaq, see here.

Wallahu Alam,

Kamau Ayubbi

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Dream: Marriage dream

Dream:

Six months ago I saw sparkling water in my dream for two nights after istekhara namaz for marriage to a guy I like. I have been praying salatul hajat since then. In last few months after isha prayers once I saw eggs & once key. Kindly help.

Interpretation:

Audhu billahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajim
Bismi-llāhi r-raḥmāni r-raḥīm

Wa `alaykumu s-salāmu wa rahmatu l-lāhi wa barakātuh

The istikhara is positive as water represents Divine Mercy. It means, that man is suitable for you insh Allah.

And Allah knows best.

Wissam

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Prayer Request: Dua for my 5 year old daughter to talk/speak

Request:

Assalsmulaikum
Dear Shaykh,

I am really worried for my you see daughter, she doesn’t understand much and is not talking or making conversation, she is very hyperactive and it’s really difficult for me to control her behavior when outdoors e.g. Shopping/ going to bank.

I am also getting really weak, please pray for me and my daughter and give me some info on duas that I can pray for my family.

I will be 35 years old soon and already have two daughters Alhamdulillah and would like to ask Allah swt for a blessed pious son to be born to me, can you please give me duas for me to pray and I request you to please also make dua for me and my family and to make dua so that all my trials are easy upon me.
Jazzakillah

Response:

Audhubillahiminashaytanirajeem
BismillahirRahmanirRahim

May Allah Bless and Comfort for the sake of Sayyidina Muhammad (saws),
and reward you for your patience and steadfastness!

Recite BismillahirRahmanirRahim 10-100x a day and La hawla wa la quwata illa billah 10-100x a day. Also, Alhamdulillah wa shukrulillah 100-500x a day.

Give Sadaqa!

WallahuAlam,

Kamau Ayubbi

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Dream: Kissing the hand of Shaykh Nazim

Dream:

Asalamualaykum

I had a dream in which I kissed the hand of Mawlana Shaykh Nazim. He was about to withdraw his hand but I kissed it two more times.

In the dream I was also watching a video of Shaykh Muhammad al Yaqoubiin which he was talking about the importance of obeying Shaykh Nazim in everything. He gave the example of what Shaykh Nazim said to him one time to show the importance. Though I can’t remember what he said exactly. What does this mean?

May Allah forgive me for any mistake.

Interpretation:

Audhu billahi min ash-shaytan ir-rajim
Bismi-llāhi r-raḥmāni r-raḥīm

Wa `alaykumu s-salāmu wa rahmatu l-lāhi wa barakātuh

It shows your spiritual acceptance by Mawlana Shaykh Nazim in the Naqshbandi sufi way. Seeing a wali from another tariqa confirms you that Mawlana Shaykh Nazim is your Murshid and you must stick to him to reach your station in Divine presence insh Allah. If you didn’t take baya yet, you should do as soon as possible insh Allah.

And Allah knows best.

Wissam

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Prayer Request: Success in Major Exam

Request:

Assalamu Alaikum wrb Ya Sayyidi! Ya Sultan! Ya Muayyad ad-Din!

May Allah bless you infintely and as much as is pleasing to Him.

As you know already Ya Sayyidi, I have an exam next week which is very critical to get into university. Please pray for me to get excellent mark (95%+) on the exam.

Ya Sayyidi I am nothing, you are my soul.

Alhamdulilahi Rabbal alameen!
Allahumma salli ala kaamil an-Nur!

May Allah bless you until you are pleased!

Jazak Allah.
Thank you.

Response:

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Wa alaikum salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh!
May your dua be answered by the baraka of Mawlana Shaykh!

Wallahu Alam,

Kamau Ayubbi

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