Prayer Request: A Separate House

Request:

Salam Shaykh Hisham Kabbani,
I’ve applied for a house under a scheme which is hard to get. Right now, I am living with my in-laws. I’ve been staying for 2 years & I need a separate house. Problems with my in-laws have affected my marriage & I feel depressed. They are very traditional , like daughter-in-law MUST cook& serve. My mother-in-law is cruel like she don’t offer me food when everyone else is eating. I feel like a stranger.I am only happy when I see my parents. I have suffered enough (all the rude & hurtful comments/treatment by my MIL) so I am hoping you could make a small prayer for me so I can book a flat. I’ve sinned a lot and Allah may not accept my dua. I am trying to go back to the right path now. Please dua for me for this house request.

Response:

Salam alaykum,

Mawlana Shaykh Hisham will pray for you and separate space is best. Make istighfar, give sadaqa and trust that Allah Most High is faster to forgive than we are fast to repent. Recite Ya Haleem x100 daily, in sha Allah things will improve.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Imam tells future events

Question:

Is it right in Islam for any Imam to say he knows the events of the future? Is there anyone but Allah who knows the person we will be married to or end up with or the type of life we will lead? I know there are fortune tellers out in this world but is it not haram for an Imam to claim he knows the future?

Answer:

Past, present and future are equally and indifferently known to Allah Most High and He reveals of that whatever He wishes to whomever He wishes:

يَعْلَمُ مَا بَيْنَ
أَيْدِيهِمْ وَمَا خَلْفَهُمْ وَلاَ يُحِيطُونَ بِشَيْءٍ مِّنْ عِلْمِهِ إِلاَّ بِمَا
شَاءَ
{He knoweth that which is in front of them and that which is behind them, while they encompass nothing of His knowledge save what He will} (2:255).

However, it is not the way of the Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) to claim to know the events of the future unless there is a Divine command and wisdom to that effect which is part of his Prophetic mission and therefore exclusive to him:

قُلْ مَا كُنتُ بِدْعًا مِّنْ الرُّسُلِ
وَمَا أَدْرِي مَا يُفْعَلُ بِي وَلَا بِكُمْ إِنْ أَتَّبِعُ إِلَّا مَا يُوحَى إِلَيَّ وَمَا أَنَا
إِلَّا نَذِيرٌ مُّبِينٌ

{Say: I am no new thing among the messengers (of Allah), nor know I what will be done with me or with you. I do but follow that which is inspired in me, and I am but a plain warner}

When the angel asked the Holy Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) “When is the Hour?” He replied “It is among five things of the unseen which Allah alone knows.” Imam Abu al-`Abbas al-Qurtubi said in his Commentary on Sahih Muslim:

No one whatsoever may aspire to know anything about these five things as stipulated in this hadith. In addition, the Prophet explained that the verse {And He has with Him the keys to the unseen, which no one knows except He} (6:59) means these five things. This explanation is in the Sahih. Therefore, whoever claims to know any of them independently of the Messenger of Allah (upon him blessings and peace) , that person is a liar in what they claim. As for conjecture about the unseen, such is possible on the part of the astrologer (al-munajjim) and others [e.g. geomancers, fortune-tellers] since it is a matter of custom, not knowledge, and Ibn `Abd al-Barr cited Consensus over the prohibition of taking, stipulating, or giving any kind of compensation in exchange for such information.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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turbans & tasbihs

Question:

Salamalaykum waRahmatulla waBarakatahu

Would you recommend wearing a turban out and about in a completely non-muslim area? Or is it showing off?

Also, I read (Ibn Ata`Allah) that it’s good to do so much tasbih that people think you’re showing-off. Do you know why this might be (the showing-off bit) and would it apply walking about in my non-muslim area?!

Finally, why do Naqshbandis distinguish themselves in terms of dress, as opposed to Shadhilis for example, who, so I’m told, dress to merge in with the Muslim majority?

Thankyou very much

Answer:

wa `alaykum salam,

No one asked you to dress in a turban,  or to walk with a tasbih. No one asked you to dress in western dress. Many of Mawlana Shaykh Muhammad Nazim al-Haqqani mureeds dress in western dress or they wear like in the middle east countries. They dress in western style  dress and 10% might like to wear loose dress. Also, to identify that they are muslim they put a hat on their head and some like to put a turban following the sunnah of the Prophet (s) as the Prophet (s) has a turban and you can find these hadith about turban in Sahih al-Bukhari and other books. As for carrying beads,  you can carry beads or count on your finger or do awrad without counting but by timing. everyone is free in what he likes to wear. And you can merge with the majority of muslims. In Turkey the majority of Mawlana’s mureeds wear western clothing and in Far East 99% are wearing normal clothes and rarely will you see other than that except in mosques or at dhikr that they wear Naqshbandi style. It is not written in any books that you have to dress Naqshbandi style, you like to you may or not.

In Grandshaykh `Abdullah al-Fa’iz ad-Daghestani (q) time Grandshaykh `Abdullah al-Fa’iz ad-Daghestani (q) didn’t wear the same style as Mawlana Shaykh Muhammad Nazim al-Haqqani and he wore a turban on white fez, and the white turban cloth was made in Aleppo. The cap is not pointed nor was the turban pointed and the clothes were not loose pant and shirts but it was white thawb as in Hijazm Egypt, Morocco, or in Africa and a jubbah on top of it.

So Mawlana has his own style as it suits him. He used to travel a lot from country so wearing a thawb would  be difficult with many issues. So that is a good question. And as for carrying beads, don’t carry and show off. If you are really pious then do your awrad before fajr and don’t carry beads. It’s better than being lazy and sleepy. Do your awrad from before Fajr Qiyam al-Layl up to Ishraq. The awrad is 1500 and 300 salawat and one juz Qur’an or 100 Surat al-Ikhlas and 300 salawat or one juz Dalail al-Khayrat. How long does that take? One hour? And then you don’t need to carry the beads to show you are someone special, that is showing off.

I don’t understand what you said about showing off, I never read Ibn Ata`ullah said that.

Shaykh Muhammad Hisham Kabbani

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work in pizzaria and pizza delivery

Question:

assalamu alaik ya saeedy may Allah give you long life and his end lees Rahmat. My question is that can I work in a restaurant or for a restaurant in delivery where they sell haram meat and alcohol? wa assalam.

Answer:

wa `alaykum salam,

Please follow the advice given in this post.

Staff

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Dream: met mawlana syekh nazim

Dream:

I dreamed I met mawlana syekh nazim and kissed his hand after that smack me in the 3 times I smile because it does not hurt then I asked Mevlana to cleanse my heart and Mevlana put his hand on my heart so long and I feel there is an incoming energy hot pressing in the heart latoif point until I woke up I was sorry I did not sleep in a state of ablution(wudhu) may I know the meaning of this dream Syech? Syukron

Interpretation:

Audhubillahiminashaytanirajeem
BismillahirRahmanirRahim

It means that your shaykh is blessing and purifying you and that you should do as indicated (sleep with wudu).

Wallahu Alam

Kamau Ayyubi

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Prayer Request: Need your prayers and appearance in my dreams

Request:

Salam Alaykum ya choyoukhna,

I am in a court battle with the company I used to work for to win my rights back, please ya choukhna I am requesting your barakate and prayers.

I also ask MSH and MSN to visit me again in my dreams. they have appeared in my dream once when I was in the usa, and it was a healing; my problem has been resolved miraculously..Elhamdulilleh. Their appearance in my dream also would mean that I am still a murid of Naqshbandi order. Come and vist me in my dreams ya choyoukhna, barakatukum ya choyoukhna.
my name is [private] and my mother’s name is [private].
Thank you forever and ever
Salam Alaykum

Response:

Audhubillahiminashaytanirajeem
BismillahirRahmanirRahim

As Salaam alaikum,
Continue to do your best to keep rabitah, Heart connection with your shuyukh and recite Hasbunallah wa naim al wakeel 100x a day along with any other awrad you know to recite. When you remember them, know that they are with you whether you see them in dreams or not.

Wallahu Alam

Kamau Ayyubi

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Request for Wazifa / Dua

Question:

[private] I am working in Kuwait since 2002. I was brought my family in 2005. I have paid money to one Kuwaiti person to make residency of my family but he cheated on me with the money and residency also not done. But unfortunately fingerprints had been take before she left and now we are now black-listed due to fingerprints had been taken.
Now I want to bring back my family but I cannot bring my family back here. But unfortunately I’m not getting way to remove fingerprints and blacklist. Hence you are kindly reqested to help me to resolve this matter by advice me some dua or vazifa.

Answer:
Recite 100 times RabbunAllah HasbunAllah for 40 days and give sadaqa to your ability.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Dream: Family death shock experience

Dream:

Days after my beloved brother’s death, I had a very scary night where I didn’t sleep. Felt like death was surrounding me, being on my own with my 4 children in own bedrooms fear of my death was presence of something was strong, families opinion is it maybe his soul visiting as i very close 2 him, my sister had similar experience but she had her husband I have been getting similar experience since can’t sleep much, that i had just done wudu and got into bed just past midnight fear hit me so hard that if I sleep I will die, he passed away in his sleep. He passed away without any family around he was only 40 he was eldest Me youngest can u please help? I am grieving my brother, also very disturbed by this incident why did this happen? What could be the reason?

Interpretation:

Your brother, you, us and everyone without exception are in the hand of Allah Most High and nothing affects us for better or worse except throught His Will alone. So focus on Him and do not be worried about His servants. Recite before bed the last two verses of Surat al-Baqara, 100 times La ilaha il-Allah, 10 times salawat, then Fatiha.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Permission for surgery

Question:

Assalamu’alaikum,

Alhumdulillah I can now have a minor surgery which I’ve wanted for nearly 3 decades, but first want to clear its permissibility.

The surgery is to sew my upper lip to my gums as mine do not have connecting tissue, thus causing my upper lip to show a very large swath of bony gums when I smile. This is unattractive but also awkward since in dry weather my lip and gums can dry and fuse together when I smile, so I must peel them apart with my fingers. Also in cold weather my gums are sensitive to the air.

Alhumdulillah the surgery is afforddable and minor, almost like having a few stitches, with no post-operative down-time and no significant or common risk factors.

Thank you!

p.s. My husband wants me to say that he is neither supporting nor denying the surgery as he loves me how I am alhumdulillah.

Answer:
wa `alaykum salam,
It is medical surgery and permissible.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Arranged/Forced marriage

Question:

Salaams I have loved someone for over 6/7 years and have always intended to marry however for the last 3 years a proposal had come and I refused but behind my back my mother and sister had given my hand in marriage. Over a year ago my brother and cousin supported me when I was in Pakistan as my parents tried forcing me. I refused my mother without me knowing emotionally blackmailed my younger sister who has also refused. I just can’t do it my heart isn’t in it at all. Whenever I think of being married with this person and spending my life with someone else I cannot stop crying. My eyes fill up every 5 mins and I find it increasingly hard to cope with this. I pray durood sharif to give me strength.

Answer:
wa `alaykum salam,
Read daily Hasbiya Allah wa nia`ma ‘l-Wakil 100 times. See also here and here.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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