Haq Mahr

Question:

Asalaamualaikum,

I am hoping your staff can help me understand a little bit more about the rulings on Haq Mehr.  I am insha’Allah getting married in January and our families are now discussing how much the Haq Mehr should be.  We’ve agreed it should be given in gold but I’m wondering if you can provide any information on how much it should be?  Is there any hadith regarding this matter or what is ruling of the council?  Any information you can provide would be greatly appreciated.

JazakAllah Khairun for your assistance.

Answer:

`Alaykum as-Salam,

Mahr or Haq mehr as it is called in the India-Pakistan Subcontinent is the marriage payment, i.e. money or property a husband must pay a woman to marry her, as her God-given right (haqq) commanded by Allah Most High and His Prophet, and it is usually stipulated in the marriage contract. Allah Most High said:

{And give unto the women, (whom you marry) a free gift of their marriage portions; but if they of their own accord remit unto you a part thereof, then you are welcome to absorb it (into your wealth)} (4:4).

Any part of that remittance can be paid upfront (‘prompt’ or mu`ajjal) and the rest later (‘deferred’ or muwajjal).

The mahr is what effects the licitness of the sexual relation in marriage: the Prophet, upon him blessings and peace said: “Truly the most deserving of all contracts that you have to honor is that by which you make the pudenda [i.e. sexual cohabitation] licit.” Narrated by al-Bukhari, Muslim, Malik in the Muwatta’, al-Nasa’i, al-Tirmidhi, Abu Dawud, and Ibn Majah. The amount typically received as marriage payment by similar brides (mahr al-mithl) means that which would be desirable to a woman like her (a woman like the bride, under normal circumstances), ‘like her’ meaning a woman of her relatives (through her father or mother, such as the bride’s grandmother or mother’s sister) resembling her in such characteristics as age, intelligence, beauty, wealth, being virgin or non-virgin, and in having the same hometown. Her relatives are taken as the standard. If the bride is superior or inferior to them with respect to the above characteristics, she deserves a marriage payment that suits how she is. If none of the above exist, then the standard for comparison is the marriage payment of those women of the same town who resemble the bride. In the Arab world sometimes the practice is to remit ten or more gold coins (e.g. Turkish lires or British sovereigns) encased as necklaces or bracelets, or loose.

See Sustainable Development Policy Institute’s: “Rights in a Muslim Marriage:Haq Mehr: An Essential Right

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Qadi Ruling Against Shari`ah

Question:

as salaamu alaykum,

Dear teachers, I pray you are in good health. Can someone please provide or direct me to any discussion amongst the fuqaha regarding a Qadhi who, in a particular scenario, gives a ruling explicitly against the Sharia due to some extrinsic reason, such as his having some emotional connection to the plaintiff. If such a judge, issues this ruling out of corrupt desire, rather than intending to ‘rule by other than the law of Allah,’ would it have any legal bearing on his iman?

May Allah reward you for your help.

Answer:

`Alaykum as-Salam,

“The qadis are three types; the first knows right and rules by it: he is in Paradise. The second rules for people based on ignorance: he is in the Fire. The third knows right but rules in violation of it: he is in the Fire.”

In the Four Sunan. Al-`Iraqi, al-Suyuti and others said it is a sahih hadith.

Wa ‘s-Salam,

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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about ‘Muhammad, the Messenger of Islam: His Life & Prophecy’

Question:

Salam to All,

In this book it is said that prophet Muhammad PBUH is ‘ Abu Arwah‘ (Father of all Souls), so does it mean spiritually He (PBUH) is the father of Adam (RA), but physically his (RA) son (PBUH).

My apologies if this question has come out wrong.

Answer:

`Alaykum as-salam

The expression is correct and refers to the Haqiqa Muhammadiyya on the basis of the authentic hadiths:

  • “I was Prophet when Adam was still between the spirit and the body”;
  • “I was Prophet when Adam was still kneaded in his clay”;
  • “I was the first Prophet in creation and the last one in mission”.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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Prayer Request: Travelling to see Mawlana

Request:

Salaam Ya Sayidi. This is my first time I shall be going to Cyprus to visit Mawlana Sheikh Nazim. Please do dua that I have the opportunity to see Mawlana and talk to him. Also I am having a few problems regarding getting married, i.e. the girl’s parents. Please do dua for me and her and our families.

JazakhAllah Khair.

Response:

wa `alaykum salam,

Insha-Allah, Allah swt makes it easy for you.

Shaykh Muhammad Hisham Kabbani

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where is my marriage heading??

Question:

Salaam…I got married 5 months ago. Me and my husband are completely averse to one another. I’m Sufi/Naqshbandi who loves deen. Whereas he prefers to listen to music, go out with friends, and not bother about me. Only 2 months into the marriage I sensed another girl’s involvement and kept patient and another 2 months later found proof. This is when his parents got involved. He said it won’t happen again but just this week I read his texts and emails which he has been sending talking about me to his ex, calling me a ‘ninja’ because I wear the hijab, expressing his love for her and vice versa. I calmly told him I’ve read his messages and instead of explaining anything he just started calling me nosey. I believe good things come to those who are patient but how much patience can one have..I want to walk out of the marriage..What do I do?

Answer:

wa `alaykum salam,

Pray two raka`ats and connect your heart with the Prophet (s). What inspiration comes, follow it.

Shaykh Muhammad Hisham Kabbani

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Which of these dua should I recite?

Request:

Assalamualaikum.
I am in serious trouble Maulana sahab. I like someone and that person is not talking to me because of a certain misunderstanding. He does not trust my loyalty. Help me so that our relationship does not get spoiled and he starts trusting me as before. Can you please tell me which dua I should continue to recite or any other duas;
Allahumma layyin qalba fulan ibne fulan kama layyintal hadidi li syedina Da’ud alayhis ‘salam’ 100 times.
La ilaha illa anta, subhanaka, inni kuntu minaz-zalimin 700 times with Darood 11 times before and after.
‘Ya hayyu Ya Qayyumu wa bika nastaghith’.
I had done this wazifa of 11 days, wherein after isha namaz I recited Eyya kana budu wa eyya ka nastayeen 1100 times with 11 times darood shareef before and after.
Ya Fattah x100 and Hasbiya Allah wa ni`ma ‘l-Wakeel x100 Which you had suggested.
Awaiting your reply.
Allah Hafiz.

Response:

wa `alaykum salam,

I will pray for you. Keep up what you’re doing of recitations.

Shaykh Muhammad Hisham Kabbani

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Possessed?? Please Urgent.

Question:

Asalamu alaikum Maulana Shaykh Hisham,

My brother was possessed in the past. His behavior got so bad that he cursed God and at times tried to commit suicide. He was cured by a Sufi Shaykh(he passed away) but the problem re-occured. Current symptoms are: spends most of time praying, not much human contact, rarely speaks, and says he sees snakes falling off his body. Walks in circles, writes lots of papers with numbers and reads Surah Ya Sin on them and burns those papers, repeats process everyday. Has no interest in worldly matters and feels Mowlana’s presence as some kind of flavours.

I have stated main points, if anymore information is needed please let me know. He has visited Mowlana last spring and Mowlana said HE IS A GOOD ONE. Sister Sophie from UK got to know my problem through spiritual bond with Sultan and guided me to you. MADAD

Answer:

wa `alaykum salam,

Insha-Allah we are praying for him. As Mawlana said “he is a good one” which means leave him alone he is connected to highly spiritual beings and he will be ok soon.

Shaykh Muhammad Hisham Kabbani

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Studies and the Straight Path

Request:

Salaam ya Shaykhs,

This year is a very important year for me in my education. I would really appreciate it if you could do dua for me so that I will get good results inshallah. Also could you please give me something to read to help me with my studies and most importantly help me stay on the straight path.
Jazakallah.

Response:

wa `alaykum salam,

Insha-Allah you will do good. Recite hasbunaAllah RabbunaAllah 100 x daily.

Shaykh Muhammad Hisham Kabbani

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Prayer request: To give up love of this world

Request:

Assalamu,alaikum my Beloved Masters Mawlana Shaykh Nazim and Shaykh Hisham.
I was blessed. I had the opportunity to meet beloved Master Shaykh Hisham and take bayath. Before I wasn’t praying, but this year I strongly feel I should give up the world and give myself into Sufism so I can be guided to Divine Love. I now try to make sure I don’t skip any prayer, dhikr. I visit websites of our Masters, try to follow as much as I can. I was a very bad person and want to seek forgiveness from Allah SWT and Prophet SAW. My Masters, I beg you to help me, pray for me and please tell me dua that can remove love of world from my heart, so I can get refuge from the whispers of the cursed Satan,
and so that Allah SWT and Beloved prophet Mohammed SAW and Mawlana Shaykh Nazim can accept me and have mercy on me.
As salamu alaikum

Response:

wa `alaykum salam,

Alhamdullillah continue what your doing and say 100 Ya Hafizh daily.

Shaykh Muhammad Hisham Kabbani

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Origins of the Hadrah

Question:

Salam Sayyidi,

Is the correct understanding of Shaykh Dabbagh’s statements from al-Ibriz, regarding the Hadra? at “The Origins of the Hadra

Answer:

Salam alaykum,

I addressed this issue previously, see http://www.livingislam.org/fiqhi/sm1-gfh_e.html#ffd

What Sayyidi `Abdul `Aziz al-Dabbagh (quddisa sirruh) said about the hadra not existing in the first three generations means (i) in the formal terms and fame in which it took shape and disseminated in later times and (ii) because, as his biographer Sayyidi `Ali b. al-Mubarak said of him, he was always so respectful of textual transmission (naql) and loved for spiritual unveiling (kashf) to confirm it rather than replace it, in deference to the fragile iman of his contemporaries; but both he and Imam Ghazali (Allah have mercy on them) still put kashf first (see the first book of Ihya’ `Ulum al-Din on the difference between `ulama of Yaqin and `ulama of “fiqh, i.e. dunya“–his terms), as did (and do) all the Ahl al-Wilaya because it is preposterous to ask for an external chain of transmission (as Shaykh Hisham would say, “footnotes”…) when the wali‘s direct source is Rasulullah salla Allahu `alayh wa-sallam; but they do not force others to follow them in this.

The Siddiqin never force those who do not accept their wilaya or their teachings to follow them. They are not like certain prominent jurists who have known issues with tasawwuf and at times may appear to want to convert everybody to their own ijtihad, for example with a hair-raising comparison, in a contemporary Tafsir, of the Hadra to the worshipping of the Golden Calf of Banu Isra’il (may Allah forgive such su’ al-zann); or the sweeping claim about the Hadra being an invented worship and that “this is not my personal view or opinion but rather that of the majority of scholars of Islamic law throughout the ages.” I know these great `ulama well because they were my teachers in Damascus and I still love and respect them, but I (and all of my other teachers and close fellow students, and certainly all of our myriad Tariqa brethren) part ways with them when they speak ill about the Sufis. Such an act is just too costly to one’s spiritual state.

Even so, it is enough that the Knowers of Allah (`arifin) concur on the permissibility of Hadrah and their word supersedes that of the scholars of the law; and this, to take up his own words, is not my personal view but the fatwa of Sultan al-`Ulama al-`Izz b. `Abd al-Salam (Allah have mercy on him):

<<Concerning the priority of the knowers of Allah over the knowers of the Divine rulings, the saying of the teacher Abu Hamid [al-Ghazali] is agreed upon. No reasonable person doubts that the knowers of Allah… are not only better than the knowers of the Divine rulings, but also better than those of the branches and the roots of the Religion, because the rank of a science is according to its immediate object…. Most of the time scholars are veiled from their knowledge of Allah and His Attributes, otherwise they would be among the knowers of Allah whose knowledge is continuous, as befits the demand of true virtue. And how could the gnostics (`arifin) and the jurists (fuqaha’) be the same, when Allah says: {The noblest among you in the sight of Allah are the most godwary}) (49:13)?… By the “erudite” in His saying {The erudite alone among His bondsmen fear Allah} (35:28), He means those who know Him, His Attributes, and His actions, not those who know His rulings.… A sign of the superiority of the knowers of Allah over the jurists is that Allah effects miracles at the hands of the former, but never at the hands of the latter, except when they enter the path of the knowers and acquire their characteristics.>> Ibn `Abd al-Salam, Fatawa (p. 138-142).

Otherwise, as Shaykh al-Islam Zakariyya al-Ansari said of many Sufi practices, “the modality (kayfiyya) is a bid`a but the root/principle (asl) is a Sunnah.” This applies to the Hadrah. See Hafiz al-Sakhawi’s takhrij and commentary on the very last hadith of al-Sulami’s “40 Hadiths on Sufi Principles” (Arba`in Hadithan fil-Tasawwuf), which regards dancing (al-raqs), in which al-Sakhawi said the most obvious *Sunnah proof* for hadrah is the Abyssinian-style dancing displayed in front of the Holy Prophet (upon him blessings and peace) by `Ali b. Abi Talib, Jaafar b. Abi Talib and Zayd b. Haritha (Allah be well-pleased with them) (Musnad Ahmad and Sahih Ibn Hibban).

I will also mention this report which to some of us is as if Mawlana Shaykh Nazim al-Haqqani (quddisa sirruh) had spoken it yesterday:

Abu Araka al-Kufi (son of the Companion Maalik b. `Aamir b. `Amroon al-Bajali), after praying the dawn prayer behind Sayyidina `Ali (Allah ennoble his face), saw him pensive and sad, then he heard him say: “I have seen a remnant of the Companions of the Messenger of Allah salla Allahu `alayhi wa-sallam. I see no one who resembles them now. By Allah! They used to rise in the morning disheveled, dust-covered, pale, with something between their eyes like a goat’s knee, having spent the night chanting the Book of Allah, turning and returning from their feet to their foreheads. When Allah Most High was mentioned *they swayed the way trees sway on a windy day*, then their eyes poured out tears until – by Allah! – they soaked their clothes. By Allah! Folks today are asleep, heedless.”

Narrated by Ibn Abi al-Dunya in al-Hathth `ala Qiyam al-Layl (1:210-211 §203), Abu Nu`aym with two chains in Hilyat al-Awliya’ (1985 ed. 1:76 and 10:388), al-Khatib in Mudih Awham al-Jam` wal-Tafriq (2:330-331), Ibn `Asakir in Tarikh Dimashq (42:492), Ibn Kathir in al-Bidaya (8:6-7), and Hafiz Murtada al-Zabidi in Ithaf al-Sadat al-Muttaqin (10:130).

Finally, the objectors to the Hadrah are usually fond of quoting the story of the delator from Nasibin who disturbed Imam Malik (Allah be well-pleased with him) about “some Sufis who eat a lot then start chanting then get up and dance” (see http://www.livingislam.org/fiqhi/sm1-gfh_e.html#4), which shows that some form of what they so kindly call “fabricated, bogus ecstasy” hadrah did exist in the third generation, since the first three generations consist in (i) the Holy Prophet and his Companions (upon him and his Family and all his Companions blessings and peace); (ii) the Successors; (iii) the post-Successors, to whose generation Imam Malik belonged! So Sayyidi `Abdul-`Aziz’s statement about the hadra not existing in the first three generations means it was not so abundant and widespread as in his time; not that it didn’t exist in absolute terms in the sense of being unheard of in the first three generations.

May Allah bless Sayyidi `Abdil-`Aziz al-Dabbagh (Allah sanctify his secret), he makes a rhetorical concession as a placebo to the people of external knowledge then he moves in for the kill – a good spiritual kill of the ego, for people who have an iota of attraction to be hugely benefited: he mentions to us something incredible, unique! namely, that the hadrah is from *awliya‘s kashf of the Dhikrullah of the angels* – Allahu akbar……. Aamanna wa-saddaqna. Who can resist such jadhba except a stone-hearted shaytan? May Allah sanctify Sayyidi `Abdul-`Aziz’s soul and raise his stations in `Illiyyin, and all our Shuyukh, Amin!

So the hadrah is from *awliya‘s kashf of the Dhikr of the angels*; and here we are still disputing… its Sunniness… – how absurd does it get with the “students of knowledge” in our time?; and then we hear the whisper that “yes, Sayyidi al-Dabbagh is such a great wali, but since he says the Hadrah did not exist in the first three generations, then surely he is implying that it is a bida`.” What is the difference between this reasoning and those who say that Dala’il al-Khayrat did not exist in the first three generations, and invoking blessings on the Prophet is worship, so reading it regularly (not spontaneously) must be an unlawful innovation? In both cases the misguidance is clear in the objection, not the thing objected to.

Such misguidance is the proof (as Sayyidi `Abdul-`Aziz himself said) that some religious knowledge is “from darkness” (zhulmani) because it is ego-based and takes us the wrong way. Such pseudo-knowledge will avail us nothing in the presence of the Awliya, or the Prophet, or Allah Most High. This is the meaning of the words of Abu Yazid al-Bistami (quddisa sirruh) to certain ulema of his time, “You are dead and taking your knowledge from the dead.” See also Shaykh Muhyi al-Din Ibn `Arabi’s warning to students of Fiqh in his time against the grave dangers of speaking ill about the Sufis and the death of the heart that may ensue in indulging such speech. Shaykh `Abd al-Ghani al-Nabulusi quoted this excellent text in the beginning of his book on the permissibility of musical instruments in spiritual recital (sama`) entitled Idah al-Dalalat fi Sama` al-Aalaat (Clarifying the Proofs concerning the Audition of Musical Instruments), published at Dar al-Fikr in Damascus. (If someone translated this book it would be a great service to English Muslims.) And you know those who grumble against Shaykh `Abd al-Ghani al-Nabulusi in our time; they are the very same as those who grumble against Sayyid Muhammad b. Alawi al-Maliki. May Allah bless him and all His Awliya past, present and future.

Ghufranaka Rabbana wa-ilayka al-masir! May we remember Him at all times, standing, sitting, and on our sides, with ‘wajd‘ or without. Was-Salam.

Hajj Gibril Haddad

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